I never realized how much my bad relationship was affecting my job until I was out of it. Many of my coworkers have come up to me to say how happy I seem now that I broke up with my ex, and I am! See, my ex-boyfriend was an alcoholic and I spent most of my time outside of work supporting him.
I had no idea it was so apparent to people at work, but now that I look back I can see that it was probably obvious. I'd come into work tired and stressed because I'd spent the whole night up trying to control him and nurse him when he was drunk, picking up bottles and things he'd broken late into the evening. Toward the end of my shift I'd start getting anxious because I wasn't sure what I'd be walking into when I got home.
Now that I'm single I know that the house is just as I left it and I'm not coming home to some unpredictable situation. It also made me realize something about my job: I really love it! Before, I felt miserable about work, miserable at home and everywhere in-between. Now that I've gotten rid of the thing that was making me miserable, I feel so much better about everything. Here's to getting rid of people and things that drag us down and really TRULY allowing ourselves to enjoy life! Life's too short for anything else. I know that now!
Do you bring problems to your boss? Solutions? or problems with suggested solutions?
Usually problem brew up to the person you report to. If everything is going fine, and if you know your authority well, then no need to bug anyone else - right? But when things go wrong, usually you need to check in with a Boss to either let them know, or to double-check your authority in addressing the problem.
Here's my 2 cents of advice - try to bring solutions when you surface an issue or problem. Even if its a suggestion. You will be seen in a constructive light, grease the wheels on promotions and goodies (titles, $$, benefits, etc.) and prob have more productive relationship. This isn't always possible, but whenever it is, pause and put a solution to the situation!
I mean your relationship with the company you work for.
Some of the conversations people engage with here are constructive about what employers are doing - or should be doing and aren't - for us as workers. But what about what we should be doing for them?
If you are in any relationship - romantic, friendship, family, etc - you have expectations of how you expect to be treated and so does the other person. We know that these are dependent relationships. I mean, if a brother treats you poorly, you are unlikely to do him any favors. If a husband never helps a wife around the house (or vice versa) then the wife is prob unlikely to be in a good mood around the husband. So we all kinda know that if we want our expectations to be met in a relationship, that we need to meet the expectations of the other party too. So. Again. Hows your relationship with your company?
Are you working with purpose and intention? Are you rallying with extra effort when they are hitting headwinds? Are you trying to help and bolster people around you? Are you giving feedback to any perceived wrong actions by people in authority so they can get better with your feedback? We have so much control that we often don't see. If you find yourself wishing you were treated better at work, or happier in your duties, maybe you start by thinking what you can do first. When a relationship gets into trouble, someone needs to take a first step towards changing mutual behavior (even when they know they are in the right, sometimes you take the first step anyways). Then, if the good-will and dedication is not reciprocated - by all means find another job. Life is too short to work where you are not happy. But, lets all consider a riff on the JFK quote - Before you ask what your company can do for you, lets first ask what we can do for our company.