Starting a business isn’t easy at any age. Having the foresight and planning can become daunting.Yet when I consider the option of borrowing, applying for grants, fundraising opportunities and maintaining a lifestyle to secure a positive future willingly and knowingly takes time and patience. CEO sets standards and pace of the company. This quarter is coming to a close and my profit to cost margin is slim. Next year make better decisions. #boss-lady#model-business#focus
Working With A Difficult Boss
Even the best office relationships hit a rut, but if it’s your relationship with your boss that’s suffering, work can be especially challenging. Maybe you’ve lost their trust, or you haven’t been seeing eye to eye lately, or maybe you’ve never really gotten along. Whatever the reason, how can you build a connection that’s more than just average? What steps can you take to improve your interactions? And are there times when you have to accept that the relationship may never get better?
Experts say that having a positive, productive and healthy relationship with your boss is critical to your professional success. Being on great terms with your manager helps you stay aligned with the priorities of the organization, understand its constraints, and get access to the resources you need to get things done. Work is not a popularity contest, but the reality is, your boss’s opinion of you matters. It matters for functional reasons because of the control or influence your boss has over rewards like special assignments, your visibility, and compensation, not to mention - your advancement in the company. But it also matters for psychological reasons. We are wired to please authority figures. When your boss doesn’t like you, it’s painful. Here are some strategies for interacting with your manager to get what you need, support your boss’s success, and excel at your job.
Diagnose The Problem (If there is one)
If you have an inkling that your boss isn’t keen on you, the first question you need to ask, is whether you’re sure the problem is you. Maybe your boss is cold, distant, or a more contained individual who doesn’t convey much positive affect. Try to figure out whether there is specific annoyance directed at you. If your boss interacts with you differently from your colleagues, then yes, it probably is something about you. In this case, you need to ask yourself: Am I working on the issues that my boss wants me to be working on, in the way they want me to be working on them? Have I been disregarding their feedback? Have I done something to lose their trust?
If you have done something to undermine your boss or lose their trust, it’s up to you to take responsibility. You need to be the one to own it. Acknowledge that you’re at fault and apologize. The good news is that even strained professional relationships can be repaired. The key is to assure your boss that you want to work on things and ask for help in getting back on track. Be patient, it will take time to win back his good opinion. Most bosses appreciate employees who work hard, mean well, ask for help, and follow through. The worst employee is a gifted individual who doesn’t give their best.
Align On Goals
After identifying the problem, you now need to work on a solution. If you’re unsure of what your boss expects, it’s time to clarify. We want our bosses to be proactive, but the onus is on you to establish a two-way conversation that aligns their priorities with your own. It’s a partnership. The trouble comes when you think their expectations are unreasonable. Sometimes there’s a sense that bosses are not fighting the right battles, so we dislike them. Instead of dwelling on that, you should try to see things from their perspective. Think about the world in which your boss is living, where these priorities make sense. And then signal to your boss that you’re getting with the program.
Focus On The Positive
Aligning yourself with your boss’s agenda might require an attitude adjustment on your part. Chances are you’re not hiding your negative emotions. Your boss knows you don’t like him. Maybe not the extent of your disdain, but he knows it. The more you obsess over your boss’s irritating habits and tendencies, the more the relationship will suffer. Deliberately changing your mindset by trying to find the positive. Focus on the strengths your boss has, not her weaknesses. In addition, do your best to reduce the intensity of your annoyance or antagonism. Here, again, it’s helpful to empathize. Try to step into the shoes of your boss and see the world from his point of view. Understand her priorities and the demands she faces. It’s important to remember that your boss is human too.
Another way to build rapport with your boss is to connect with them on a human level. Try talking to your manager about topics beyond work. Find a subject that would create a bond. Try to figure out what your boss cares about. Is it a sports team? Stamp collecting? A particular music group? You don’t need to feign interest if you genuinely have none, but learning about who your boss is as a person and finding genuine overlaps in interests will give you a deeper understanding into what makes them tick. Ask her to coffee or invite her to lunch, so you can get to know each other on a personal level. That said, if a personal relationship isn’t easy, don’t force it. It’s okay if you don’t have chemistry.
Seek Your Boss’s Counsel
Asking for advice is a good way to improve a person’s opinion of you. It shows you respect their judgment and their intellect. It also increases their investment in you. But asking your boss for advice or help is a delicate matter. You don’t want your boss to think you’re delegating back up or putting the problem back on them. Make sure the boss knows you’re paying attention to the pressures he’s under. Phrase your request as asking their guidance to help you think things through. Show that you’re still willing to do the work. Say, ‘This is how I’m thinking about things. These are the trade-offs I’m considering.’ Bear in mind that once you ask for advice, you have to follow through on it.
Make Your Boss Look Good
The best way to have a strong relationship with your boss is to do your job and do it well, but that may not be enough. Go further by anticipating your boss’s needs and pitching solutions to problems. This will make their life easier. While sucking up is not advised, it’s always smart to make your boss look good. Compliment your boss in front of colleagues. Demonstrate loyalty to your boss’s vision. Don’t be a sycophant and don’t be dishonest. If you’re singing your boss’s praises or rushing to her defense during watercooler chat, you have to mean it.
Consider Moving On…Or Not
Working for a boss you don’t like is demotivating and de-energizing. People describe it as a crucible experience. When your relationship with your boss seems beyond repair and you’ve done everything in your power to make it better, consider looking for a new job, or at least a new manager. If you can’t trust your boss, it may be time to get yourself out from under that person. Though it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to leave the company. Alternatively, you could develop a slightly thicker skin and think, This too shall pass. After all, bosses come and go, and it’s good training to work with a difficult personality. You will find out how to operate at your peak despite a sub-optimal relationship with your boss. You will develop resilience.
Principles To Remember
Empathize with your boss in order to get a clearer understanding of their priorities and the pressures they’re under.
Build a personal relationship with your boss by engaging them in conversation topics beyond work.
Ask your boss for their guidance and counsel; this shows you respect their judgment and intellect.
Assume your boss’s attitude toward you is personal.
Figure out the extent to which your boss behaves differently with you than with other people.
Harp on your boss’s annoying habits. Focus on his positive traits.
Give up and look for a new job too soon. Working for a difficult personality helps you build resilience.
I am so stuck right now. I left my job at the end of 2016 because of an unsafe work environment. Was on disability because of it for almost a year. Went back to work as a temp at the end of 2017. The assignment ended and now I'm trying to focus on whether or not I want to be my own boss or continue to look for a real job. I know i want to be my own boss but not sure if I'm going to succeed. writing is my passion as well as cooking. So it would be one of those two things but hard as hell to get the ball rolling when you have no money to get you there. Ugh - rock and a hard place.
Do you bring problems to your boss? Solutions? or problems with suggested solutions?
Usually problem brew up to the person you report to. If everything is going fine, and if you know your authority well, then no need to bug anyone else - right? But when things go wrong, usually you need to check in with a Boss to either let them know, or to double-check your authority in addressing the problem.
Here's my 2 cents of advice - try to bring solutions when you surface an issue or problem. Even if its a suggestion. You will be seen in a constructive light, grease the wheels on promotions and goodies (titles, $$, benefits, etc.) and prob have more productive relationship. This isn't always possible, but whenever it is, pause and put a solution to the situation!