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Jeff Magnuson, MBA
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over 6 months ago

Bullies Are Just Cowards in Disguise

If you have a manager (or another colleague) who is bullying you repeatedly or who acts very unprofessionally to you over and over again, you HAVE to take steps to bring it to an end.

No one deserves to have this type of stress in their life. I’ve seen (and experienced) how this behavior can negatively impact people’s health.

The first thing you have to do is clearly document the behavior.

Second, practice what you are going to say to whomever is bullying or mistreating you at work in a calm but firm tone.

And third, sit down in a private 1:1 meeting, lay out the issue(s), and TELL them their mistreatment of you stops right now.

Often, this is all that will be necessary because bullies, underneath all the false bravado, are just cowards who likely know what they are doing is wrong, but just keep doing it because they feel they can get away with it with you.

This is not your fault, but you must take steps to stop it.

If that doesn’t work, you escalate accordingly. Either through HR or, if that’s not enough, an appropriate employment lawyer.

Bottom line: No one deserves to be bullied or mistreated in the workplace and the only one who can REALLY make sure it comes to an end is you.

#workplace #hr #bullying #advice #jobtips #harassment

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Jeff Burton
over 6 months ago

Reason for leaving question on a job application is not so favorable

I haven't had too much luck at the last to companies I worked for and left one under bad terms and walked out of the other because I felt harassed. How can I put this lightly on job application now?

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Jamie Christiansen
over 6 months ago

Negative Employees

Remember negative employees push money out the door. These types of employees may try ruin other employees on the job. Some may have major psychological issues. Talk to a trusted person to debrief after a negative encounter. You may need to work with a professional to gain actual tools for on the job so that real bullying and sabotage do not bring you down to their level. No need to be intimidated. Practice firm boudaries with the negative people on the job as well in your personal lives.

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Sean Lahorn
over 6 months ago

I’m not signing this…..

I refused to fill out some company evaluation questionnaire because I felt managers were coercing employees to file positive reviews. Since then, the warehouse center manager has been changing my routes everyday then pulling me into the office because I was running one hour over the allotted delivery time. I know he’s going to give me a corrective action next time it happens which I’m not going to sign. Can I report this as harassment?

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Maria Rose Randazzo
over 6 months ago

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My son just started a job at CVS under their 45 day program for new hires. I was under the impression that this company is a professional based business especially with the intense paperwork he had to read and sign which went over with great details on all rules and regulations something expected in today's world. After his first day of 8 hour of just paperwork orientation, he started the on-job training on an overnight shift to learn cashiering, stocking and floor presentation. Besides being left on his own after a few basic presentation, the following occurred, he was not punched in until 2:30 am after starting at 10 pm and only because he needed the assistance of the person who was training him to ring out an individual, second he was told because he was a management person he was not entitled to any breaks period except for one bathroom break and at end of scheduled shift he was told he could' t leave because again as a management person he had to work until all jobs were done for the shift (he received no list of jobs needed for shift either.). I strongly believe this was a case of harassment by the employees of that shift to get him to quit. What is the best possible approach to this situation?

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Irene Taylor

So sorry to hear about your experiences at work Brian. This is a free website that can help you identify and search for employment harassment resources within your state - - http://www.nolo.com/. In the meantime make sure you're keeping a log of specific instances with witnesses in case you need to provide proof.

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Marijoy Bertolini

Brian, I'm so sorry to hear about the trouble you're having! These are serious things you're describing and it sounds like you need a lawyer. There are lots of free resources on the web; try this link to the legal services team at Cornell University: https://www.law.cornell.edu/justanswer_interstitial. And make sure to keep copies of anything that supports your position. Good luck!

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Mary Bombala
over 6 months ago

Harassment

Document everything and call the EEOC you are protected Title VII. I would not quit before going to them. It may take a little while to get in and then get a lawyer who will take your case contingent.

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Sheila Thomas
over 6 months ago

Employee

Do not trust Comfort Care. They will turn on you simply on a whim. Several employees were laid off and fired within 2 weeks because they spoke out about a chaplain that was sexually harassing the ladies in the office. The upper management will not listen or act on situations such as these and one of the regional managers is....I can't find the right word for here except "whew"

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Maxine Drawn
over 6 months ago

Looking for aonther job

I lost my husband 4yrs ago with brain cancer it hasn't been easy on me at all.. I am trying to stay. Positive most of the time. My home base is ok, were I did work at first I wished I would of stay there, 21/2 yrs goa I didn't have as many problemsthere I was very happy and contented Now at this other job being harassed, and sexharassed, I am the only female there they pick on no elase gets picked on or told on all the time I been dealing with this for 121/2 yrs. Now. I have wrote lettlers, and went to the director office in February of this year 20017 and nothing was done about it at all, its hasn't stoped its getting worse every day I have to walk on pins and needles, and be careful I don't give or show any wrong kind of body language or looks, I don 't want to go work there any more. But i have no choice I have medical bills other bills I have to pay. And keep my self going for me. But.I can't take much more Being treated this way at all. So I am hoping and praying to God for his help me find another job. For can be myself and be able to work . I understand there will be ups a down. But not like we're I am at now. Co/ work see how heard it for me now.

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Lori Smith
over 6 months ago

Asked to leave before my notice is up/ hostile work environment

Dear job chasers Advice? I have several weeks ago filed a hostile / harassment grievance against my direct supervisor, the matter was taken seriously by HR , & they have been investigating. Since then , I feel I have beenr retaileated against. Eg. Small infarction such as a paper being left unattended. Ect. Though , I hadn't been there in12 hours. & anyone could have placed the paper in a no secure area. However, getting to my point , I have found another posistion I feel good about. Today I was asked to come in HR with my supervisor & told I could go ahead & leave now, I didn't need to work my two weeks notice. I will get paid through all my days I was scheduled to work, when I asked " why" the only response was " it's tense ". I did get my supervisor to admit in the presence of HR , it had nothing to do with my work ethic or performance. I'm still shocked! It was NOT a termination. & I have that in writing. I just feel it's punitive. & told them so. I have been an excellent employee who has been at this company for over 8 years with excellent work reviews. Is this a common practice ? I felt like I was being fired Thanks for any comments or advise.

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