Well, it sounds like the first guy was talking complete bullshit and the 2nd guy -- almost humanely -- let him know they weren’t going to be hiring any convicted felons anytime soon. That is their right. And depending on the business? BANK, RETAIL, TRANSPORTATION, HEALTH CARE? All open them up to MASSIVE LIABILITY and if they’re not OK w/ the fact that he has to OWN his past, then so be it.
That’s the thing about one’s decisions in life. You’re going to pay for it. Especially in this day and age when I can pay 20 bucks and find out your entire life story. And that’s scary. But it is the way it is. I currently work at a financial institution. First time ever doing so. The background checks? The finger printing? The “mug shots”? The personal references? Um. After a week of that? With my 10uyear old DUI and my temporarily crappy credit? “I’m screwed.” They offered me the job -- as long as all my checks cleared. It was Day 10 after the offer and I sweated through ANOTHER weekend of waiting. Understand,, this job would be the best paying job of my life. And a huge step in my career path (tech). And the interviews? Went wonderfully. And they offered me the job. But I had to wait. I wrote a long email to my potential supervisor about my credit, etc. I shared it w/ my recruiter who became horrified I would even consider sending such a thing.
We argued like a couple breaking up. Phones were hung up. Curse words were exchanged. But in my heart, I wanted at least the CHANCE to defend myself. Or explain myself. “Don’t just read that damn report and think you know me!” I thought. So after that 2nd weekend, I knew my past was rearing its ugly head and I was going to be turned away, my job offered taken back and given to someone else. I was a complete wreck Oh,and btw, I was dead broke. 2 more weeks? I ‘d be homeless. DAMMIT.
So that Monday morning I woke up and sat at my computer. I had an email address from the HR gal that sent me all the background documents. And I wrote her an email.
“Hi, ______:: I felt compelled to write you and the company to let you know I am very aware of my credit and I’m working on a solution and how best to recoup my financial good standing. I would feel wrong if I didn’t acknowledge it. So I am doing so now and hope this doesn’t dissuade __ocmpany from going through my hire, because I really want this job and to work for your company. That is all. Thank you for reading... best, John S.”
And about an hour later? My recruiter, who was screaming at me the last time we spoked - and for good reason -- called me and said: “Are you sitting down?” ME: “Should I be?” HER: “YOU GOT THE JOB!!!” And a big smile took up my entire face and I listened as she congratulated the freaking hell out of me, all excited. And I think I was happier for her for that entire day.
And as of right now? She doesn’t know I wrote them.
And never will.
That’s what I did to somehow mitigate my past, give it some shape or put it under a different light. Yes, I went rogue. But hell, I had noting to lose besides my home.
Do what you can w/in the law to make a potential employer see YOU and YOU and YOU in a different light.
I guarantee you that 99 times out of a 100, they wouldn’t hired me. But you’ve got to know something about me. I ALWAYS BELIEVE I AM THAT ONE IN HUNDRED. I ALWAYS BELIEVE I AM THE DAMN EXCEPTION. I ALWAYS BELIEVE ... in me. It’s what I do best especially when my back is up against it. That’s when I shine.
BELIEVE IN YOUR SELF. OWN YOUR PAST. AND BELIEVE IN YOU GETTING PAST ANY OBSTACLE
Now goddamit..., go get’em.