I have been with my company for a total of 6 years. 5 in one department and i changed to another department a year ago. I loved the new position and was excelling.
My daughter's school called me at work on a Thursday to let me know I needed to come to school immediately. Turns out my daughter was raped over Christmas break (I got the call from the school 2/1.) She hadn't told me or her dad or anyone until that day. I called my boss to let her know what the school had told me. She said I had to come back to work, and that there wasn't really anything for me to do now about it. No sympathy , empathy, nothing. I came to work and straight to the HR department who told me to go home IMMEDIATELY. My supervisor should not have asked me to come in.
I took 2 weeks off to take care of my daughter. I went back to work for 3 days and then my doctor stated I needed time off for myself. So I took another 2 weeks off for myself. I went back to work and worked for about 3 weeks , until mid April when I had myself admitted to an inpatient psychiatric hospital for severe depression. Since then my doctor requested I be off work until May 30 th. I have gone ahead and put my notice in to them.
I guess my reason in posting is to see if anyone has started completely over at almost 40 yrs old? I saw myself having this same job and retiring from them. But due to this crime I have not been able to return to work. I'm looking for a complete new start. Any suggestions ?
I had wrote this post and then forgot all about it. I am just now seeing the wonderful and uplifting comments you all sent me and I so greatly appreciate all of them!! An update : I've had one interview at Cigna and am going on another interview tomorrow with a local hospital. I am positive that things will look up for me soon!! Thank you So So SO much !!
Dear Heart Kate,
I am almost afraid to comment for some fear of being misunderstood and possibly sounding a bit shallow. But I know in my heart that we are here to assist, aid and comfort those who are in need, and with this being said I feel sure that eventually all the Sonship of God has to face their adversaries, and obstacles; of course this is at different times and at different degrees. With this statement, I also know that my primary purpose "here" in this place in time is to uplight, encourage and nurture others, and aid in the bringing about the raising of "Consciousness".
To Quote: "If We Can Not Love Our Brother Who We Can See, then How Can We Love "He" that We Can Not".
Dear Kate, please give some thought to what I am about to say, and believe these statements are based on lived experiences and not on hearsay. What seems to go backward is really moving forward! These very dark moments that befall upon some of us in this physical realm is horrify and at very best overwhelming. And yes, there are many things going on in your life all at the seemingly same time. The Universal Principles and Our Creator who truly assures that we are (His/Her/It); designed us as His Devine Creation, "Created in The Image and Likeness to God" rest assured that doesn't mean to look like. We stand at the forefront of all that has been created that there are no coincidences, no accidents, or no just so happened. Now, I must clarify that is not to say what has happened to your beautiful daughter was what needed to happen, but what I am saying that we have choices in the after mass of calamities, despair, and chaos to choose. "There Is Only ONE Power, however, Two Ways to Use It".
Please do NOT and I repeat take the negativity that has been set in motion; DON'T allows yourself to sink and reside in a DARK place. Your baby needs to see only your strength and not a continual confirmation of what has happened. Not meaning to diminish the mental and physical hardship that has been brought into your family's life by the act of a tormented, lost soul that could bring himself to perform such a deed. I know you and your baby will overcome this, and raise to the Infinitely Devine Spirits you both were Created to Be. You are Immortal, and this incident "This to Shall Past". Let this be the stepping stone to bridge and bring you and your baby's Spirit into the union as one heart, one beat, one pulse, one love and therefore unconquerable, unstoppable beings; that you both were created to be.
When you are ready please reach out to me when you are ready to return to work on the behalf of yourself and your family. I have access to a tremendous list of available work that is 100% legitimate and allows you to do these jobs from home. As a matter of fact, I indulge in a lot of these positions myself, due to they allow me to remain an Independent Contractor with a lot more control of my life, and still produce income.
My Motto: "We Are All In This Together"; We Stand Strong and United!
My ongoing advice when the darkest seems to be upon us is to remember "I AM Not Alone, I Have A Guest, I Invited "Him", and I Need to Nothing...Just Don't Interfere". This is the Holy Spirit that I am speaking about. Always keep your daughter near as long as she needs you, and hold your head up and never show a waggling of Faith, and when your daughter is ready to walk on her own she will demonstrate that you taught her the ability to soar, to achieve, to overcome and bring forth the Unlimited Gifts that Our Creator Has Bestowed Upon Her....this way always be remembered by her...as her mind, and the nightmare that memories cause of a very bad experience begins to heal and dissipate. One day it will not exist for her because you showed her how not to be a victim, and carry throughout her life a victim mentality.
As for the "JOB", take this as an opportunity to broaden your horizon, actually an opportunity to lift, raise and conquer.
To Quote the Course In Miracles by The Inner Peace Foundation:
"Nothing Real Can Be Threatened, Nothing Unreal Exist...Herein Lies The Peace of God".
Much Love, Joy, Abundance, Health and Peace...Go With You Always!!
NO... not a good Idea !
Kate, my heart goes out to you and your daughter. You could have asked for short term disability so you would have time to deal with the stress. That would give you time to regroup and then be able to keep your job.. I hope all goes well with you and your daughter!
You could also look into the Life Coaching Industry. It's a "home office type" role with minimal certification. It seems to be this new age role that affluent, college-educated women transition to...they counsel similar women in "transition" ...post divorce, sold their business, job loss, inheritance, etc. It fits into the definition of a new start, for certain.
Sure, I am starting over at 60... people just "age out" of their old careers, emotionally or chronologically. If you are looking for a "new start" you can do it in increments, of course. Try a new position with a competitive firm Ina business you know, and immerse yourself in the vision and planning of your new work life. Soon, you'll know. The activity should help lift the depression a bit, too. Good luck!
Hi Katie, I'm sorry that such horribleness has touched you and your family. My heart goes out to you all. I'm here if you need anything. Make sure you both take all the time you and your family need to heal before adding any more stress to your life. I'm just wondering if you really loved your new department why do you want to quit and start over?
Hi Kate Graham I’m so sorry to hear your daughter and you had to endure such a horrible experience. I hope your daughter is receiving all the help and support she requires in order to recover. Sounds like you are going through a very challenging time in your life right now Kate Graham . I think you should focus on your health right now before making any life altering choices. Change is good but change can also be stressful. Try to avoid any overwhelming situations until you recovered enough to manage them.
Another community member @holbygrl0922 NMN is within your age range and recently posted she finally landed a new job after many long months of unsuccessful job searching. She explains how she sled into depression along her journey but found hope to keep on going. Check out her conversation Still in awe… and send her a message if you find something in her story you can relate to.
I'm also going to tag a few other very active and supportive community members in my response in order to give you access to a network you can reach out to for support, advice, and encouragement. Let me know what career direction you want to explore and I'll put together a list of employment opportunities for your review. We're here for you Kate Graham . You are not alone!
Community Network: Patricia Collins , Anthony Harrington , Veronica Jefferson , Heather H , Thomas Calloway , Erinn Brown , Sonia H.
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