Happy Tuesday Jobcasers! I hope your weeks are off to great starts filled with interviews, or starting the dream jobs you’ve landed.
I wanted to take a moment and address something that has really been bugging me lately... It’s the amount of negativity within our community that can often translate to bullying. Yes, we sometimes think our fellow members are whining, or they’re not trying hard enough, or they have a situation way less severe than yours. And you think to yourself "how could their issues possibly be any worse than mine?". But that’s the wrong attitude and I want to remind you of something.. Just because you or I might not understand someone else’s plight or struggle, doesn’t make it any less real, painful or stressful. We all feel things differently because (and here is where the beauty of Jobcase comes through) we are all DIFFERENT!
There are going to be times when you'll see a fellow member has posted on a topic that you may not necessarily agree with. And your immediate gut reaction is to post exactly what's on your mind, in that exact moment, which will most likely result in a response that is full of every emotion you're feeling (frustration, anger, etc.) in that moment. Instead, hit your internal pause button and take the time to answer in a thoughtful way that is devoid of negative thoughts and emotions. This was you can post a response that offers feedback or advice in a positive tone that is coming from a good place, and often constructive.
Jobcase was built as an avenue to build each other up while giving honest and CONSTRUCTIVE feedback… Jobcase was not built to break each other down. We're see far too much of this breaking down lately, and it’s got to stop. As I said above, we are ALL in this together and we need each other.
Lastly.. As the bible and the golden rule both say in one form or another.. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. Let’s keep that in mind here when we’re responding to posts or posting our own.
I’d love to hear your thoughts..
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The wrong attitude is not going to help you prosper in life: A sucessful business or company is ran of feedback off the community or people that shop at that store or resturant. Misgudied, anger isnt the answer, to being successful in todays soceity be humble, patentice, strive, and struggle, makes a successful business.
It's v. hard to communicate tone through the computer, so if you're giving "constructive criticism", please make sure "constructive" shines through!! Honest, well-intended advice will not be heard if the recipient feels attacked.
Sadly, this is a public forum and people will always find a way to bully and lash out while hiding behind the anonymity that the internet affords.
I tried posting a very similar thing a few weeks back and, rather ironically I might add, it imploded into bullying. So I hope this fares better as it is spot on and we all could stand to hear it again.
I don't know why it is so easy to be angry and a bully but it seems to take so much effort to be kind and helpful.
Well said Julie. :)
I do agree. Often there are things going on in a person's life surrounding their unemployment that we're not privy to. There is no way we can have the full picture from a post on a board, so we have to consider that one little piece we're seeing as part of a whole before we hit "post".