I need to her some stories of those who have gone through similar
So my life hasn't been easy. Many obstacles in the past decade have hindered me getting work. Forced to use bad advice, abuse at home, abusive relationship, death in the family, homelessness, and now being out of the age range that most people get their first few jobs i am broken.
I am 26 and have actively been doing about 40 applications a week for the past year and a half since things finally stabilized.I have only 2 months of experience from three years ago (this time 2015) which i got wrongly fired from.
Each day I lose confidence in my ability to work and I constantly grow more scared of not being able to land one or keep it.
I am socially awkward so the first hello's at interviews are generally not the best impression and I can't ever tell if I am being too casual or too professional. The second time meeting me onward I am a lot less awkward and far more relaxed, but I've never gotten to a second interview.
What I am looking for are stories, or just advice from those that just by some force struggled to get a job (or rarely employed) on how they kept their head up and how things turned around. People that know people like this or have worked with them are fine to share their experiences too.
At this point I am just looking to lessen my fear and try to gain back some of my hope lost years ago.
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I am currently going through something similar but different I'm socially awkward to and I can't control it some times it makes me talk to much some times I talk to less I have no problems getting interviews its just that I'm inexperienced and when employers find out they change their minds
Unless you've won the lottery recently, you can't give. Many people have been in the same situation as you,. You need to not dwell on your past and look towards you future,. Keep applying and sell yourself as a good employee, don't go into an interview with excuses, go into interviews positive,ready to achieve as much as possible in the position.
Hello Alex D, Lenin just contacted me about you and thought maybe I may be able to help. I read your post and took a look at your profile. First, I want you to know that I think that you are an incredible person. I mean that. You have gone through some of the most difficult circumstances anyone should have to face. Most people would definitely be devastated if faced with what you've gone through. I think what impressed me most, is how you are not giving up, but choosing to forge aheads with your life. In your profile under work experience, I saw that you had worked for Seven Eleven. Since this is where your experience is, it is probably also where your best chances are to find a job. Finding work in a similar position will give you more confidence during your job search and during the interview. I'm going to get some information together right now and I will get back to you in a little bit to help you with the interview process. Feel free to contact me with anything you may want to let me know or questions you might have. Dont give up Alex, I won't.
Hi Alex D , I think it's perfectly natural to experience some level of fear and/or anxiety during a job interview. After all, the stakes are high right! The key is to overcome that fear by turning it into a logical emotion that going to help you land the job.
Preparation and practice are the two behaviors that finally helped me control my interview anxiety. I study the job description to get a solid understanding of the qualifications and job responsibilities to make sure I have the skills and experience needed to perform the job. Then I dive into more company research to learn the company culture and identify if the company is excited about a new product or service launch, (this info makes a great talking point during the interview because it lets the interviewer see you know something about the company).
Think Positive thoughts all the time! Remember, no one is going to take the interview for you so you have to be your best advocate to land the job. Positive thinking will help you maintain that attitude.
Get in front of a mirror and practice! Go online and Google a list of interview questions for the company you are interviewing with and practice your answers at home in front of a mirror. This will help you make corrections to your body language and let you envision what the interviewer is looking on the interview.
Of course, pre-interview prayer also helps. Don't let fear keep you from you next job. Maddie A offers some great advice in her conversation Jobcase’s Top 5 Tips to Nailing the Job Interview and get motivated with Jason Roberson post Let it Flow toward Success. Do you have an pending interview or have you just started your job search? Need help finding the right job? Please let us know how we can assist. Thanks & Good Luck!
Alex D, I've put together several "mindfulness techniques" that has helped me to deal with job interview nervousness. I think you will find this information helpful as well.
Feeling nervous before an interview is completely normal. We all react to interviews in different ways. Maybe, you can't sleep on the night before the interview. Perhaps you don’t feel nervous until you get to the interview.
If calming your nerves would be useful, here are three practices I use myself.
BREATHING WALTZ This is a simple breathing technique which is easy to remember (and use!) during times of stress. Simply inhale for three counts, hold for three counts and exhale for three counts. Repeat as many times as you like!
EXPLORE YOUR SENSES A powerful way to bring yourself into the present moment is to consciously pay attention to your senses. Challenge yourself to find ten different colours, or hear five different sounds, or notice how the ground feels underneath your feet. You can create as many little challenges for yourself as you like!
BODY SCAN You can find plenty of guided body scans online or in meditation apps if you would like a little extra guidance for this practice! Essentially, this practice involves paying attention to each different part of your body, from the tips of your toes to the top of your head. If you notice any areas of tension, focus on gently releasing and letting go of that tension.
Interviews have always been something that made me more nervous than most other things I have had to face, but I made it through and was overall happy with how it went.
One thing I realized afterwards was how much time I’d wasted, predicting negative things happening and feeling stressed about them. Predictions such as being late to the interview, forgetting all my words, failing the interview and not getting the job. So much excessive worrying, with little need for it. Negative predictions actually increased my stress and didn’t help me whatsoever!
The moral of the story is, practice and prepare, but try not to make needless predictions.
FORGETTING THE QUESTION: “I’ve lost my train of thought, may I please hear the question again?”
“Could you please repeat the question?”
Keep it simple and don’t worry- forgetting a question isn’t a big deal! I’ve had it happen to me several times. However, if you find it happening regularly, try keeping your answers more succinct and to the point.
NOT HAVING AN ANSWER: “I’m not sure how to answer that question.”
“That’s a great question, I just need a moment to think about it.”
If it’s appropriate, you could request for them to give you an example, as this may trigger an idea for a response, or clarify the question for you.
SAYING SOMETHING YOU PROBABLY SHOULDN’T HAVE: Just apologize. Let them know you’re feeling nervous and then tell them what you actually wanted to say.
“I’m sorry, that’s not actually what I wanted to say. What I meant was…”
While this tip may be simple, it can also be an easy one to forget. Your interviewer has been in your shoes before and they probably still remember how it feels. In fact, your interviewer may even be nervous, too!
If it helps, you might like to imagine the interview is actually just a conversation (which, essentially, it is!). You’ve had plenty of conversations in your life and they went ok, right? That’s how you know you’ve got the skills (and done the practice!) to be a great interviewee.
In the time leading up to an interview, do you find your mind spiralling out of control and focusing on everything that could go wrong (and, maybe, all the tough experiences you’ve had in the past)? Say hello to your negativity bias!
Negativity bias is the tendency for our minds to be more likely to remember “negative” events and experiences, repeat negative information and have an impact on our emotions and behaviours.
Try balancing out your negativity bias with some conscious positivity, such as a visualisation. Imagine arriving at the interview at the perfect time, your interviewers are friendly and kind, you answer the questions thoughtfully and you maybe even enjoy yourself!
The way I see it, we can choose to imagine challenging things happening, or we can choose to imagine good things happening. I know it may not always be easy to think positively, but every effort can help when we’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed.
Stress doesn’t want to hurt us. Stress is actually more a manifestation of our body’s attempts to protect us from threat and avoid harm. Our hearts race, our bodies sweat, our hands shake and our breath quickens because we’ve identified something challenging and our body is preparing to run away, or stand and fight. In moments of real danger, this stress response is ready to save our lives.
The thing is, our interviewers don’t want to eat us. An interview isn’t an avalanche we need to escape from. However, our bodies think they are!
So, why not embrace your stress like it’s an old friend, here to visit for a little while, just to make sure you’re alright. And once it knows it isn’t needed, you can let it leave again.
In everyday life, many of us have numerous occasions to practice mindful listening. Be conscious of using open body language and making eye contact, avoid multi-tasking if possible (especially using your phone or watching television while someone is talking), answer questions thoughtfully and share your own opinions and experiences.
Practicing mindful communication empowers us with incredibly useful skills to draw on during interviews. Plus, you may even find that being a mindful communicator helps strengthen your relationships with the people around you!
Self-confidence is something I’ve enjoyed working on over most of my life. It’s a skill which can truly transform the way you appear to other people (as well as having an amazing impact on how you feel about yourself!).
For example, I used to be very shy and felt uncomfortable even making eye contact or smiling at people I didn’t know. While I didn’t intend to, I may have seemed a little unfriendly! Since working on my self-confidence, I feel much more able to connect with people, I’m less critical of myself in social settings and I’ve actually discovered how great it can feel to believe in myself.
Obviously, this can have a hugely positive impact on how you interact with people when you’re being interviewed!
Reward yourself for your efforts to increase the positive feelings you have towards interviews. This may be anything that you like to do, anything that makes you feel good.
Give yourself a cone with two scoops of your favorite ice-cream, maybe this is a good time for your favorite pizza, or catch that latest action-film that you want to see at the theater. It could be something simple as spending time with a friend who's fun to be around.
By encouraging ourselves to grow and learn, rather than striving for “perfect”, we cultivate a growth mindset and open up a world of opportunities for ourselves.
There is a big difference between using self-talk like “I did a terrible interview- no way will I get hired” and “I could improve a few things, such as my responses to questions about my strengths.”
Take an honest look at what you could improve and then actually take action! Manage nerves by attending workshops on assertive training and public speaking. Most importantly, believe in yourself.