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My boyfriend is the associate director at a small gallery owned by a rich person. He started not too long ago and is curating a show with a large group of artists, but he hasn’t talked to his boss (the owner) about budget for the show yet(install, shipping), because she is not there at the gallery very much. When I asked my boyfriend what if she doesn’t want to commit to the cost of the show? He just said “I don’t mind if I have to pay a few hundred dollars out of my own pocket.” Which I think is absolutely a principle that no employees should pay for directly work related costs out of their own pockets. So we got into a big fight. His argument is: if this show goes well it will be good for his career.

He is full time, salary based, no commissions.

Am I wrong in this argument?

#advice #management

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Steven Ransom
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that's not your BF's responsibility. that the business owners. Or if your BF is in partnership.

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Kevin Rushing

I knw this may sound crazy… but… look at it this way…your boyfriend has a NEW JOB he likes… he may even see something down the Road that you don’t see? Promotion possibly who knws? A chance to Prove he can handle anything without his BOSS’s help? What does that say about your Boyfriend? I say he’s a Go getter! Leader! And has that Willingness to go the EXTRA MILE…. even if it cost “HIM” a few extra bucks,or what he may consider as Chump change! Now let me ask you…. How much of that money he’s spending is coming from your purse? If none…. I say rethink your reasons… if part or any then I say Simply “ EXCLUDE” yourself from helping him, but if u care about him SUPPORT him..that to sum would Be like a DISCOVER CARD… “ priceless”

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Lamar Burrows

He will be able to say I did this and have proof of it. Thus he can pull the job off in the future and maybe start his own business doing just what he's doing now. Seem like he's running the show now. You should be glad you have a man that has big dreams and you should support his dreams (no money).

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ed yusis
  1. Your boyfriend should have cleared the show and discussed budget with the owner before stsrting thee process.
  2. I think the show was your boyfriend idea, not the owner's, I also think if he cancels the show it will be bad for his career.
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t michels

Unless you have an expense account do not use your own money for work unless it is to buy tools that are yours or work clothes

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Kevin

Small investments , could. Lead to bigger opportunities in the company . If he's passionate about his job , who knows what lies ahead . Good luck to your Boyfriend

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Scott Simoncic

It’s going to start a bad trend with the Rich owner. I end up doing a lot of work (electrical, cctv, network, home theatre and automation) for rich people somewhat often, I had to come to a policy where I won’t even buy a $1.00 receptacle out of my pocket because rich people don’t understand money on the same terms as “normal” people. They’re notoriously cheap when it comes to everyone else, most rich folk truly do have some level of disdain for those who aren’t and believe they’re actually better for having money, and they’re the first to try and beat you up over labor AND materials. He needs to be very careful with the thoughts of “if I do this maybe they’ll see I’m dedicated and it will advance my pay/career/both in the future.” It most likely won’t, there’s a reason they have him on salary instead of hourly, overtime exemption, actually, it disqualifies the employee of many protections, I would expect nothing more from rich folk, they are the hardest to get paid by, take the longest TO pay, they like to consolidate things like labor time that shouldn’t be consolidated (They call for a problem that is unrelated to your work, you tell them what the rates and terms are, they agree, you drive 20 minutes each way, and spend 10 minutes fixing the problem, they call you for something else unrelated OR the cause the same problem again even though you told them not to do the thing that caused it anymore, you spend another 45 minutes mostly driving there again, and they do the “so it only took you 5 minutes to actually fix it, 10 last time so together, 15 minutes, let’s call it an hour altogether. Nooooooo, you live in the next city over, and gas here in CA is still $5.95 a gallon, and I have to carry tools so it’s a truck, and I get 11mpg’s average, it would cost ME money at this point to fix your problem. “Well you can write it off…”. That’s about when I start taking a few days to return their calls or referring them off saying I’m going to be on a 3 month project, because I already know where this road is going. All money is not good money. If he doesn’t respect himself and what his responsibilities AREN’T as well as what they are, this will only get worse, and more frequent. TRUST ME, DO NOT SUBSIDIZE RICH PEOPLE! They do no need it, and will not recognize or acknowledge what you’re doing for them, because it’s Cents on the Dollar for the kind of money it would actually take for them to acknowledge that you’re actually doing something for them that they consider worthy of their gratitude.

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Harik Dunlop

Idiot ,no employee pays for company risks and costs

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Greta Webster

No, but don't argue with him anymore. He may have to find out for his self. Communication and understanding is the best thing in any given situation. You and your boyfriend job.

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Sharon E

I think you have a good point. He should speak to the owner about the budget for the show and at least let her tell him where the funds will be coming from before he puts any money down.

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