Oh Boy, Rajnea, that's a heckuva question, right? I suppose anyone can deal with an 'sob' for a short period of time in any context. But not long term.

When I was a kid my favorite movie was the Godfather. You need to be a Michael, not a Sonny. Sonny was the kind of guy who wouldn't work for an SOB for a minute. But being impetuous, and doing what you want in the exact moment you want to do it is dangerous planning. (Spoiler:... Sonny ends up riddled with bullets about halfway through the movie.). Michael, watches, plans, and then executes his plan. (spoiler... Michael ends of running the whole organization by the end of the movie, his friends rewarded, his enemies vanquished).

So, here's the deal. If your boss is the typical run-of-the-mill 'sob'. Be a Michael. Interview as much as you can (check out jobs in our jobs section, ask other jobccasers for leads, etc.). Get another job. And just get away from him/her. No-one deserves to work in a poor situation. But, if your boss is more than run of the mill bad (if he is abusive, sexist, racist, etc.) then you shouldn't have to tolerate it for 1 minute. The smart play is to go to his/her superior and in a polite manner explain that their behavior is not at all consistent with the firms values and that you demand action be taken immediately. Only you can say if its crossed the line. Finally, if your Boss is normally ok, just an 'sob' lately. There might be something going on. So forget all that and just ask them to sit down and let them know that you can't work at your best when they are acting that way. Sometimes people just need feedback and you might be surprised how quickly things can get better.

Toughest thing - only you can decide whether they are 1) bad enough to quit after you get a new gig, 2) so bad you need to go over their head and quit right away if no action is taken by their superior or 3) not so bad and you should give them a chance by telling them directly whats up.

Good luck. Think/behave like Michael not Sonny. And thanks for asking a great (unfortunately all too common question) for our community to consider. Fred

ps: Anybody else out there have thoughts other than this? Would love other peoples take....

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I have been fortunate to have some really good bosses and some that were not. Everyone in their lifetime will encounter such a boss. I have had my share of them and dealt with each one in different ways. I will credit the military for preparing me to deal with those situations. I have learned to do as I am asked, then if needed, ask questions after in a respectful manner. It is never good to confront them in a hostile or disrespectful manner as it will only worsen the situation. If the issue gets too out of hand, then report it to the proper personnel.

Naw i cant neither but sometimes u got to avoid stuff but at the end of the day they yo boss so u got to do what they tell u to do. But always remember u get a check from yo boss so sometimes u just gotta be easy and relax.

Greetings.

IMPO, may I suggest and urge you -- if you find yourself in the unfortunate, self-draining and stress-inducing situation of working for a jerk boss -- to leave that job (with that well-implanted boss), collect your transferable and attractive, proven skill-sets, and find another position elsewhere.

End of argument or debate about that (in your case) no-win situation.

Hope this helps. Today is Friday, May 22, 2015.

Regards,

Stephen H. Franke

Greetings.

IMPO, if you find yourself in the unfortunate, self-draining and stress-inducing situation of working for a jerk boss, leave that job, collect your transferable and attractive proven skill-sets, and find another position elsewhere. End of argument or debate about that (in your case) no-win situation.

Hope this helps.

Regards,

Stephen H. Franke

I have worked for some of the best bosses, and a couple I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. The way I delt with them was to not take anything they do or say personal. Not taking it personal keeps your thought process clear.

I must admit sometimes things get old. After working in a particular capacity for years, and realizing enough is enough, I changed the direction of the classification I wanted to pursue. The bottom line is, I didn't sit and constantly complain about my job, I changed it. I also took the proper steps to equip me with the tools I needed to be successful in a new job classification.