If you've ever worked in an environment where one person is constantly talking about others behind their backs, you know how devastating that can be to morale and to the company culture. How would you respond to such a person? Ignore them, confront them, bring your concerns to management?
I want to talking with them alone and give education stop talking to another's,we are a team work ,w must respect another's
I have to handle this very differently now than I did when I was management. It has always been my habit to deal directly with gossipers to address their behavior and ensure they understood the meaning of "toxic work environment" and our HR policies and ensure they understood that they had a choice regarding their behavior and interactions with their coworkers and would be held accountable. This included social media gossip and harassment which was occasionally a thing that happened as they all knew each other outside of work & had for many years. Conversely, we also discussed genuinely how being the topic of workplace gossip would affect them and how they would want it handled. It usually staunched the negative behavior. I told them if they had issues or needed to vent that I had an open door policy, ensured confidentiality and would be happy to help them work through any work place issues.
Now that I work as a team member, I have confronted 2 coworkers and explained to them that I enjoy working together with everyone on the team & am not comfortable with them gossiping about others and that toxic behavior like that puts them in a very negative light and I would hate to see them alienated from a pretty great team dynamic. I am very friendly and caring in these conversations and once they got over their surprise at being called out (one on one, in private) they have changed their ways.
I also am certain never to overshare or blur the boundaries between being a coworker vs a friend.
If you keep yourself silent without joining the criticism, the third party will be silenced. But keeping yourself silent from gossip is very challenging.
Document, document, document.
If this does not capture the essence of an hostile work environment, I'm not sure what does.
If you are a supervisor, pull people aside and at least chat with them. Council if you need to.
Undercutting serves zero purpose in the workplace.
Go to the gym. Have a beer. Eat a grilled cheese. Find a new hobby.
Large workplaces are like crabs in a bucket (look it up if you need to), but people are complicated and we can never get along all of the time.
I would personally approach the individual and express that gossip only produces a negative environment. As an HR director I have sent out company emails and had company wide meeting addressing gossip and how destructive it can be.
Good morning sir. I will never go back to any gossip, because first I want to my driving in carefully and safely. And second thing, if I go back this gossip, I will never take care kids and family. If I will heare any gossip I leave that one ear to another ear.
@Bill Branstetter, what I do when someone begins to talk about someone in a negative way without the person being present is say, "Well, let's go get them and we can all talk about it and figure it out."
It can upset the one gossiping, but he or she will respect me because it shows them I won't talk about them behind their back either.
Every situation is different depending on your position. Non supervisory role, I sit and observe people, if there conversations are trouble I don't necessarily make myself available (breaks, lunch, b4 work stuff) I'm not there for that. Supervisor role, personally, I used to 1st thing, above all else inform my crew that it's unacceptable. If I get wind that it's happening we're going a crappy conversation, so just don't do it.
yes you must go to management and also tell the person that you don't want to hear about someone else. What about the person they are gossip about and their feelings. The person might not want to let everyone know their personal business.
Sometimes, it is best to simply not gossip and to stay way from the office politics.