Keep positive
Get your poop in a group people. I see a lot of whining and blaming others for their problems here. Own it. Get over it, and focus on what needs to happen... work on you. Your problem isn't others- it's yours. Ditch the egos, it's the ultimate source of negativity that will prevent you from succeeding.
What is success? Knowing your purpose and fulfilling it.
It has nothing to do with jobs or money. Those will happen as a side effect of knowing and fulfilling your purpose. It comes for free.
We live in a value for value exchange world. Make yourself a value. Nobody owes you anything. You are not entitled to a job, you have to be a value to receive a value. Nobody cares about your unemployment situation more than you, nor should they.
I apply. I don't look back with expectations, I'm too busy applying for the next one I searched for that feels right. I don't care if they don't respond... I'm looking ahead, not behind.
Every negative thing you say here is only proving why you are unemployed and not getting work. You'll be searched online. Put your best foot forward and keep there. Life change time. Show people that you won't fall to the dark side. They want to hire team players that can withstand the challenges even in the worst situations. This is where true character is made and recognized by others. Is this what you want to be known for?
Don't make emotional decisions or speak from emotions. Be rational. Don't be led by fear and make fear base decisions (emotional). Be proactive, not reactive. Don't be fake nice here. Be nice because it's right. Put genuine good out there, and genuine good will come back. But don't look back expecting it like an entitled little shi+. Help others more and worry less about yourself. Be more selfless and less selfish.
Doesn't matter why you are in the situation you are in, what matters is that you work your way out of it. It is active work, you don't get to sit around waiting and reminiscing about the life you had. Jobs won't find you, they are not looking for you. But they will avoid the egotistical complainer type.
Make yourself available for opportunity to find you! Be well presented so it can!
Be proactive. Be humble. Have gratitude. Appreciate what you have now and forget about what you don't have any more. In the end, you won't get out alive or with a thing. Make the most of every moment. Leave goodness in your wake and people will want you back.
This isn't a place to vent your frustrations. This isn't face book. This is the professional working world. Yes, you're being judged with every action you make known. If you want to vent, talk to the tree in your back yard, and be willing to listen to what it says.
Know thy self. Know your purpose and fulfill it.
What is your strongest value to others? Find a job doing that. Or, what do you want to do? Learn to do it. Either way, you'll be great.
Best wishes,
James
James, I appreciate your words of encouragement and optimism for desperate job seekers like myself. I admit being one of those people many would consider to a “whiner” over the uncontrollable circumstances that have either led to not getting hired or losing a job. But you can’t blame someone for something they don’t have. I dropped out of high school early and never had anything close to even resembling a good mentor while growing up. I was told that good things come to those who work hard which sounds real good but we both know if very far from the truth. This is not an ideal job market for unsophisticated job seekers like myself and many others that come on here to express our frustration. But at the end of the day that’s all it is. We still have to get up and try to find a way to move on with our lives one way or another. Your message is inspiring but also offers direction. A piece of advice that someone like me is not aware of that can make all the difference in how we approach a specific problem. Anyway I just wanted to say Thank you and remind you that not all of us are negative complainers and whiners but confused and frightened people trying to make sense of all the changes happening in the workforce.
James, this is a great post - sometimes we all need a little tough love to work ourselves out of a funk. Thank you for that reminder!
James..... Be careful with telling these grown up BABIES... to stop crying. I've been call asshole, dick head, cruel and unusual and harsh.... It's a big pitty party for people who want to cry.... go in and read some of my post to some people who want to kill themselves for not getting an answer from an interview. Or not getting a call back for a start date for work. Here's my favorite.... I got fired cause I took off work one day..... Then the cry babies come out..... But I am sure glade that you said it this time and not me.... I've enjoyed your post....