Is it ever okay to ask an employer why I was not chosen for a position? Politely, of course.
Hi Patricia: I think so! Honestly, if you phrase it in a way where you're just asking for feedback on why you didn't get the job, I think most employers would be happy to help out.
I agree with Mariah. If you were not chosen for a position, you can definitely follow up with the Hiring Manager or HR. As you said, just be polite and ask them if there were any specific reasons for them not moving forward and if there's anything you can work on, that way you can better prepare yourself for the next interview.
A great response to a rejection email, call, or meeting would be to thank the hiring manager/interviewer for their time and the opportunity and if they could please provide you with any constructive feedback for future interviews.
Most hiring managers are happy to help!
Nope. No. Don't. You were not selected and they have their reasons. You should never, ever, let me double that, ever ever, put the employer in an awkward position to have to justify their selection to a job seeker. I know you want feedback, you won't get it that way or if you do, it will be with a very high price like being red flagged. If you want feedback on your interviewing skills or resume, pay a consultant or see if there are free services around that can conduct an interview and tape it for you so you can see. The bottom line is, it is a people game and there will never be any hard and fast rules as to hiring or not hiring someone. It is too subjective and frankly personal. Respect that, and move on.