I feel your pain
Hi, I lost my youngest son he was 24, and that was 14 months ago. The year before I lost my ex-husband and my fiance. I thought after I lost son I didn't want to go on. But, I took off 2 months. During that terrible time of grieving over my son, my fiance and the father of my 2 youngest son's. I realized that I !!!! Must go on. Yes oh yes a day doesn't go by without tears and pain. But, we have to keep ourselves busy. It's not healthy to just stay home and think and cry. I'm so sorry for your lost. I'm 57 now and without work I don't know what I'd do. I just want to tell you that if you don't keep busy you'll be so depressed. I don't know how old your children are but you'll have to find a trust worthy person to help you with them. Your 62 years Young. As a person who wears the shoes you do my best advice is to keep busy, work, and just try. No it's not easy. But, you have to know that your wife would want you to keep going. I know it's hard so hard. But, I promise you that once you get back into driving or whatever you choose to do you'll find that the pain subsides just a little and above all keeping yourself busy is healthy for you. Please take my advice. YOU MUST KEEP GOING. I wish the very best for you my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please keep me posted.
Wow Terri Miller you are very strong to have come through the other side of such a crisis. I'm glad to see that you're trying to inspire others who may be going through something similar. Make sure to contact this person directly so they can hear your inspiring story and your words of wisdom. Thanks so much for sharing!
Thank you for your thoughts Laila, it's not easy. The Hardest part of all of this is the loss of my youngest son. Only 24 and ripped away from me. The pain is unbearable but, I know that my son wouldn't want me to stop. He always told me that I was a soldier and he wanted to be just like me as he grew into a young man. Although, I would trade places with him I can't. I do have to other son's that will always need me, for advice, love, hugs and strength to move on during bad time's in their lives. No it's not easy not easy at all. But, throug the tears and pain I can't stop. It's not only for myself but for my family. I just want to say to all out there that life will throw us all fast balls that'll knock us down with so much power that the pain we will feel like we've died. But, we all must get up even though we don't want to.Pull our bootstraps up and walk that road of pain. Life is hard oh so hard. The moral to this is we never know what each day will bring so we all must remember to let the people in our lives that we love them, our family, our children, and any close friends that have been in your life and been there for you. Please please please for EVERYONE take a moment everyday to stop a moment give them a tight hug and a kiss and say I LOVE YOU FOR NOT JUST TODAY, EVERYDAY. WE ALL KNOW THAT OUR NOR THEIR NEXT BREATH IS NOT A PROMISE. LEAVE NO STONES UNTURNED. LOVE IS FREE SORROW AND GRIEVING IS FOREVER. I HAVE NO REGRETS WITH THE FEW 24 YEARS I HAD TO SHARE WITH MY SON. AND I DON'T WANT ANYONE TO SAY I WISH I WOULD'VE SAID I LOVE YOU OR HUGGED A LOVED ONE WHO PASSES. It only takes a second and honestly it feels good to you and the person who hears it and feels that tight hug of REMEMBER LOVE IS FREE IT DOESN'T COST YOU ONE CENT. Sorry this was long. But, it's something that I feel if I can change one person's life with my story then I know that something good has come out of my pain. Hugs and kisses to all of you today and everyday. I hope you felt my hug and know I love. Let's all pay it forward. Remember it's free. Have a great day. Your friend,