Two-Faced
I’ve been work at a small designing firm for the last 2 years. I enjoy my job, my boss treats me good, and the pay is reasonable for the responsibilities involved with my position. Our office is in an open space with a big conference room at one end of the room and there’s very little division between each workspace in order to allow more creative collaboration while working on projects. Over the years I created a close bond with two other coworkers. They started several months after I did so I was made responsible for their training and onboarding after they got hired. I thought we had a great working relationship until I overheard them badmouthing me over the phone one day while I was in the conference room. One of them must have called into the conference area using the speaker and forgot to hang up. To put it mildly… they hate me! They criticized everything about me from my looks, my work, and my family. I never confronted them about what I heard to avoid making a scene and getting fired but it’s been real uncomfortable for me to be in the office. I’ve even started looking for another job. Should I talk to our manager about it or wait until I find another job and state this as a reason for quitting?
No, don't quit. The next job you may have the same problem. Continue to be you and pray for your co-workers. God Bless
I'd definitely talk to HR; this is the sort of scenario used in training all the time, and it's what the HR department gets paid to handle. As for the person who said that you'd be "inconveniencing another person," pay no attention to that-- you have NO REASON WHATSOEVER to feel guilty over any fallout from this. You've done nothing wrong; those two idiots have, and any fallout is their fault. We take on guilt over consequences that are none of our doing far, far too much; if you get trouble from this, talk to HR again-- like I said, this is what they get paid for, trained for, and are supposed to handle as a matter of course. Remember: You are not the guilty party. Best of luck!
I would talk to the manager to see if there is a solution,if you love your job don't let other people with there small minds drive you away.
To be honest, I believe you made the best decision with your own suggestion. I would ignore them, look for another job. and decide after I find the new job what and how I want to deal with them. This has happened to me on many occasions. My accusers and haters end up leaving before I did and I kept moving upward with more pay. I would do the best job I could do and add more to be more available to show team building to the persons responsible for my pay check. Do not spend time worrying about people who do not write your check. I would treat them as if they are my best friends at work, and go home each day making an impression of good sportsmanship with my superiors. Have a good day Rosalie and and contact me and let me know how things are going as I put you at the beginning of my daily prayers. SaintBobbie, Life-Coach, Always Praying and I won't STOP!!! I. Thessalonians 5:17
You know what? If it were me, I'd go to the backstabbers one at at time and say to each: Hey, I didn't realize that you didn't like me so much.......(whatever you want to include), and have them thinking that the OTHER must have said something... They'll probably fall out, then you can let them know later what happened... You get the picture I'm sure... Good luck, but DO NOT quit your job. Heck, didn't you train them?
Do not quit your job. You continue doing what you are doing and ignore them. Stupid and immature people do not deserve attention. Do your job, be polite and give them more to talk about by doing your job better. Trust me. I have been through this myself and I just did not give them the satisfaction of taking me out of my element of being ME
Rosalie, try not to inconvenience yourself because of other people's ignorance if you like the work. At least now you know who those people really are.
Rosalie,
I feel bad for you in your situation but I live by this advice, trust no one but yourself and there is no such thing as loyalty in the office place. My father gave me advice a long time ago when a similar situation happened to me, he told me you are there to do a job, not make friends. No matter what they say, kill them with kindness, professionalism and courtesy and you will come out on top and they will hang themselves with their own rope. Stand high and strong. Never let anyone push you out of a job you enjoy. Do not let them take your power away from you, take it back. I would not quit unless you find a really awesome opportunity that will advance your career and increase your salary. You do not want to do a lateral move, you always want to move forward not backwards or the same.
Best of luck. Tracine
Dear Rosalie,
I wish it were me working along side of you...but as for those two co-workers...shame on them...don't know how long ago this happen...but if it is still fresh then it is best to get the two co-workers together and present your case...first telling them about the great working relationship you thought you had with them and afterwards drop the bomb and tell them how you overheard them bad-mouthing you...express how hurt you feel...their response might not be what you may want to see or hear...but at least they know that you know...it's up to them to ask to be forgiven...pride may become a stumbling block to them...nevertheless, you keep your job and keep doing what you do best...my experience in telling HR has not been very good...best maybe with your supervisor...take care Rosalie...wish you well....
Seems you are working with unprofessional bullies. I worked in the same type of situation. Bullying & gossip can kill careers. My advice is to keep looking for a new job and no longer "share" personal information or commiserate with those co-workers. No need to give them "fuel" for future gossip sessions they me share with others :(