I have seen a few posts where people are mad, frustrated and extremely angry when an interview they felt went really well but then nothing happens. They feel used, that their time was wasted and it was all for nothing. Well, that's not entirely true. And here's why.

The thing is here - you should never ever, assume that you're getting an offer. It's just too hard to know from the outside, no matter how interested the company seems, and besides, all kinds of things can change. A stronger candidate can emerge at the last minute, the needs of the company change, an internal candidate can emerge, the employer can simply decide they prefer someone else, and lots of other things.

As for whether you may feel you've been lead on. Think about it from an employer's perspective. Good interviewers WANT to be nice and encouraging, especially to candidates they think are strong, since they want you to be excited about working with them. After all, if you were choosing between two job offers and one employer had been warm and kind and enthusiastic about working with you, and the other had been reserved and hard to read, who would you rather work with? You have to remember - they have to sell themselves too. You're not the only one at stake here. They have a job that needs to be filled - and you need a job. Two-way street. So the interviewers that tell you nice things and take you on a tour, they understand how stressful and nerve-wracking it is for some people the interview process can be so when they show you around, they are sharing with you information and being warm as possible to put you at ease. IMO, that says a lot about a company.

What happens though is that - some candidates interpret those things as signs that an offer is forthcoming. ( They met the employees, got the 2 cent tour). These things are not signs of that. The only sign that an offer is coming is when an employer says to you - We're offering you the job". That's it.

So whenever you find yourself sure that you're going to get an offer or shocked that you didn't get one. You have forgotten this rule.

A warm, kind informative interviewer does not equal an impending job offer. It only equals a warm, kind and informative interviewer.

Also, to complicate this further, not getting an answer by their self -imposed deadline doesn't mean you're NOT getting an offer. It just means it's taking longer than they thought, which is also SUPER COMMON.

As always, the best thing you can do is assume you didn't get the job. MOVE ON MENTALLY, and let it be a pleasant surprise if you did.

So keep applying, and interviewing. It's only a matter of time!

Best of Luck to everyone!!