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I know managers sometimes use texting for communicating with employees like sending out a schedule but do you think it is right for them to text about other things? Like my manager will make comments when he sends the schedule to me like “don’t oversleep. I am not coming to wake you up.” Or he’ll send a text about not coming into work hungover! Not to everyone, just me. I’ve never been late and I’ve NEVER gone to work hungover…

How am I supposed to deal with this?


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Your manager is trying to be funny but he's an idiot. He's giving both you and hr proof he's harassing you. Some people are just clueless

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Ignore the non-schedule comments - don't respond/react to them. Save the texts.

Cheryl Saliba

It's sounds to me like he's trying to joke with you, I could be wrong but as suggested you need to save the texts he sends you as well as not replying to him when he makes those types of comments. I would also suggest not sharing any personal info with him, things you do out of work or at home. Including being cautious of the things you say or tell to coworkers.

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Totally inappropriate and totally unprofessional the only reason and I mean the only reason your manager should be texting you would be for a schedule and any text you would be sending to your manager for any reason would be that you were going to be out sick beginning and end of story

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HI Michael, I think he believes he has a good relationship with you. I wouldn't sweat it.

Dave Horton

SMS or text is just that not a conferencing mechanism.
Texting was designed to get in and get out get something done.
Some folks think it is a social media outlet on a business platform, it is just business!, if derogatory don't respond but keep on file, take note your employer will do the same.

Jaime Mackey

Save your texts - there are many apps out there that not only save them but make them available to print out. If he was trying to be (inappropriately) funny - maybe you could just talk to him about it. Let him know that it bothers you and maybe he'll just stop. If you don't feel comfortable talking with him about it then HR is your next stop.

Todd Armstrong

When a manager or associate responds to you in txt like that don't take it to heart....its just dry humor...just his way of saying he likes and Trust you to be as friends.....nxt time shoot it as if his mom kept you up all!!! Taste of his own you'll find out the real if he leaves you alone but if its not a laughing matter ....hes just being a prick.....time to confront and nip it at the bud!!!!!

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Depending on how much you like or want this job will determine how you react to this form of communication. First of all I would save every communication from him including the obviously derogatory schedule with remarks you described. That Manger (I use that title very lose referring to him) either is very comfortable with you and it is harmless banter or he's intending to humiliate you since your peers are reading the same texted documents as you are. Depending upon how irritating the texts are to you I probably would continue to allow him to send text after text with those comments in case you need them in the future. You can speak with an employment attorney to inquire as to if you filing a charge will pay off according to employment law. If it truly bothers you, file a formal written complaint and take the risk. Another option would to reply in text format in the same manner you are receiving and you'll find out quickly if he's just having fun and can take what he's dishing.

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Hi is testing you for some reason

Susan Griffin Olawale

Hi Michael,
I have never heard of a mangers texting anybody and schedules..Even managers who I have known as close friends.
I would nip it in the butt ask for your schedule on paper or you write down your schedule.
Because a manager isn't suppose to get this personal. They are to keep it professional and by the Ethic manuals and company policy's.. I have working sense I was 14 years old and I'm turning 50 and in all my years I never seen or heard of this practice

Mary Mitchum

Keep a paper trail of the text. I would contact HR and make them aware of what is going on.

Kay Stone

Sounds like he's trying to be funny (saying the opposite of what he knows is true). You may want to ask him if he is being serious or if these comments are meant as a joke?

Mark Hamric

Sounds like he feels comfortable with you. Probably thinks you are a great employee and so says things he knows are absurd. But save the texts just in case he's trying to harass you.

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I don't think this can end well. Ask him to stop the comments via text or any other medium regarding work. Just the schedule please.

Jennifer Weston

As weird as it is and inappropriate if the schedule is being sent in a group text maybe he's addressing you but really wanting someone else to see it and just using you as a example because you are not late or hung over. but never the less is very distasteful.

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Wow that's CRAZY ! . I don't know anymore about companies & their procedures ever since the Internet that is how everything is done SAD but true. I would try talking to your boss in private if that's possible ?. If no results try talking to HR, but be warned that might make things worse for you if he finds out. I personally have never had that happen to me. Sorry it happened to you. Good Luck ! :)

Talisha Nichols

I'm going to first ask you what type of communication did you open up for yourself and him to have?
I would also ask that you talk with him and another manager or go a step higher ..
That's inappropriate for a manager to text that to you. What is your personal life shouldn't be his concern as long as you are at work on time that's all that he needs to worry about.
You need to save those texts and get that issue resolved. Not professional at all..

Cori Upton

That's harassment!!!

A Smith

While on the surface this seems very inappropriate, what is your relationship with this manager. Do you engage in this kind of banter normally? Even if you do, he should not be putting comments like that in writing and sending them to you.

Anyway, don't respond and keep a file of these comments. If it continues, you might approach him and ask why he puts these comments on your schedule because to you he seems to be implying something negative about your punctuality or attendance and since you don't come to work late or miss days you are not sure where this is coming from. Additionally, if someone else reads this it could affect your future with the organization.

If he doesn't stop, go to HR.