After about 2 years searching for the right position and taking jobs that paid a lot less than I needed. I took them for a cash flow, not that they helped. I had to lose everything to get back to where I was or better. I am much happier, and have a great job with awesome management. It is at 3x the money I was getting and within a few months I will be able to get into my own place again.
Remember that you are not alone and we are all here to help.