Why didn't I report sexual-harassmen?
About 30 years ago when I was way younger, I thought I needed the job I got more than anything, the truth is I was living with my parents and probably could have done without this particular job.
I was excited it was One of the first jobs I got on my own, that's probably why I was excited. But then when the manager wasn't there, the guys in the back started. They made lewd remarks, about my body, and what they wanted to do with it. I was terrified and honestly didn't know what to do. In the beginning I thought it was, just a joke. But then they started getting worse and worse with their comments. I also knew, that they were friends with the manager. And their jobs were secure, I was just a low wage worker, easily replaced. Maybe that's why I didn't say anything. The ironic thing is if it happened today, I probably would say something, at least I would hope so. Let this be a cautionary tale to anyone. Report any sexual harassment. It's against the law.
They made lewd remarks? Who cares? Its good that you focused on your job instead of policing other peoples behavior
Bravo, Jennifer. I hope you realize how much you've just helped people! Highlighting harassment and discussing the unacceptability of it helps give others strength, so Thank You. And don't blame yourself! Who can prepare themselves for someone ELSE being awful? The fact remains that employees get caught in terrible, uncomfortable situations every day. Regardless of whether a certain behavior is legal or not, if it bothers you, you should say something. If the situation feels threatening, get yourself to a SAFE PLACE, then make sure to communicate to management/human resources by writing an email, note, letter, etc. Be very clear about what happened, how it made you feel, and that you expect the situation to be handled immediately. Be your own hero and don't feel bad about it. Will there be consequences? Perhaps. But if that's the case, then the job isn't worth it. Sacrificing your health & safety aren't worth it. Lastly, try to give yourself a break and recognize the good you've done as a result of opening up. We appreciate your story and applaud you. Thanks for sharing and being a great Jobcaser! Marijoy
Hey Jennifer, I am so sorry this happened to you. You can hear how much this hurt you by the detail with which you remember it 30 years later. I wish this was just a thing in the past, but as much progress as we have made - there will always be jerks. I thank you for bravely sharing your story. Jerks and bullies lose strength in the light. And sharing your story just might make it easier for someone else to share theirs. And being able to talk about these things is a first step in stopping them. Thanks for being brave, thanks for being part of this community and thanks for sharing! Fred
Jennifer, I admire your courage and really appreciate you for sharing this message. Too many victims of sexual harassment go unheard for some of the same reasons you mentioned. We Need More Awareness!
I'm so sorry you had to experience that, Jennifer! No one should ever have to go through that.
When we r young as u were we tend to try not to make waves plus we're scared to say anything. Sorry u went through that . dont worry though cuz karma will get them even if it takes 10 years or more! Karma could be their daughters being harassed! Oh well!