I would have been left

All cliches have some truth. Like “If it looks too good to be true..” I started my new job 3 weeks ago. Boss not typical dbag psychologist; presented as kind supportive chill. Excellent pay providers make own hours billers bull dogs about getting us paid. Inspite of all this gloriousness I had 2 thoughts in my head “too good..” and let’s see if he acts the same when I start and how long will it take for him to drop his new boss act and let his ugly out. “Too goood..” 100% accurate due to delays and mix ups with my paperwork which prevented me from working full time It took Boss 3,weeks after I started to show me his ugly. He did so by Phone while I was driving to work. I never expected that level of vitriol Needless to say he killed my composure and my excitement about work site. He accused me of failing to get documents. I stopped talking over him and said I would take care of it. I did not fail at anything but the responsible parties did and admitted it to me. I have been diagnosed with Complex PTSD in large part from abuse of all kinds by bosses since 2013 . I resigned from two jobs w/o having another one—I never did that but it was quit or get too sick to work and get fired 6 years of fear hypervigalence past my baseline level loss of cognitive function guilt shame depression self loathing thoughts of suicide which will never happen. My boss’s email triggered PTSD as he claiming that “There were complaints about me from a facility or facilities where I work (nursing homes) and that I may not work out.I am so new just 3 weeks. Apparently employers eliminated grace periods. My response had no emotions. I stuck to logic: He could not and would not tell me whowhenwherewherewhat. I told him I did not need to know the what etc since denying and disputing what he was told=defensiveness a very unattractive behavior. I said it was unfortunate that the person(s) with the beers did not approach me directly and that he got there world view. I ended by emphasizing my work and use my gift of hypervigilance for observing her every aspect of each place and that the person you chose is still here I dread checking email + text + missed calls + even getting the mail. I dread going to the facilities tomorrow Thurs Fri and will remain paralyzed by fear until I think he will not fire me which means for as long as I work for him. I lost all trust and confidence in him w/o knowing if they were had any basis in reality. At going on 61 I have almost no options no matter how Boss acts. Luckily he prefers people who do not need him. Since most of you are younger or much younger, be grateful for any signs of humanity from employers. Do not stay with an abusive boss first signs look for and interview at multiple jobs find the best one for you and resign graciously and with grace. It is a small world plus you get to role model class to a cretin. Thanks to all who read part of all of my pathetic post. If u can please comment good bad or neutral not the point. Feel free to tell me how I am digging my own hole or what to do differently Most of all send me good thoughts Thanks guys Abbey G I live in Northwest suburban Chicago but NYC is my home I❤️❤️NY!

Figures it’s health care. He wants to play engage and enrage. Do opposite remain non defensive. Best comment to stop convo “You’re probably right@

"Hostile work environment " is a very serious issue! I would have to agree that if your boss is a bully, strong presence in office then you will never get an "unbiased resolution ." It might just be time to move on and up in your field. 1year in your industry should give you the knowledge, experience, and understanding that is needed. Good luck. Wish u the best....

Have your boyfriend beat his ass -

Hi Brittany,

Leaving the job should be part of your list of options but definitely not the first one. The truth is that you are in a bad situation but you have to push the survival button and sometimes the only way to survive is to fight back but indirectly. Fighting bosses directly is tagged as misconduct & insubordination but who says you can't indirectly. That is where the ripple effect counts………… You may be cruel in the process to one of his favorite innocent coworkers especially if he tortures you using them, anything to help you get your job done otherwise trust me you are toast. Then u will say why get the innocent coworker involved……. but then remember you are innocent too. So it is just part of game in the corporate world. Anyway good luck in making your choices.

Find another job after you do make sure to report him verbal abuses should not be tolorated he is trying to break your spirit and he doesn't seem to be a professional who is educated.

Find another job or report his abusive attitude' but unless he has done this before, they probably will take his side.

Dont submit ideas any more,stop talking and only use emails,come on,how can yu not kno this?i does sound like your whining about it though,b an American and suk it up!

Report him first to his upper mgmt, then get him on tape or voice recorder doing that, document the time and date this occurs, then bring your proof to upper mgmt, if that doesn't stop then if that doesn't stop then report him to the labor board, if all else fails seek Out an Attorney a labor attorney, follow the chain of command, so they can't use that against you!, but always in the mean Time seek employment else where!, you don't deserve that kind of treatment and it's very stressful! Take your problem to the good Lord and let him fight that battle! These things do work., GOD BLESS YOU.