Don't know what to do
Hello this is Nikki I was recently in search of a job but now I did get a job start on Mon. I am a single parent with a 12 year old and the only issue is sum days I have to work evenings to nite will get home around 9:30 are 9:45 but i won't be home to help my daughter with homework & I definitely know she will not be comfortable home alone until i come home because that's all it's been is just me and her and it's hard for me as a parent cause i will be concerned but also I need a job I am so confused on what to do any suggestions?
It's sounds like your daughter comes first. :) Try and find someone who you both will trust and be comfortable with. If not, explain your situation to your employer and the answer will make your decision for you. Very best to you and your daughter!
Hi Nikki,
This is one of the challenges that parents have to deal with at times, long days, overtime and working in the evenings. Does her school have an afterschool program where she can get help with her homework? You may need to find a child care provider that can watch her on the evenings you work late hopefully you are not working late every day. I suggest you find two people you can trust to watch her in the evenings and potentially on days off and half days. I never liked leaving my son home alone and I did not start doing it until he was thirteen. You can try to find another job but in the meantime, make this job work because being jobless and not when your next employment opportunity is going to come can be very stressful. You might even be able to find another parent in the school that can assist you.
Hello Nikki! 12 years old is not that old but she can be left alone and babysit at that age. Teacher do and don't when your not home. Show her how to lock up. Give her nearest neighbor to contact if trouble. Let her grow.
Reach out to family and close friends for help. They know your situation and will be more than willing to lend you both a hand!
Ask, when you can, if your new employer has any type of childcare benedit available to employees If not ask if they could hook you up with other employees that have solved this problem.
Sometimes you have to make sacrifices and work random hours. Nothing is forever just until you find something with an earlier schedule. Good luck
Always look for the consequences of your actions. Keep the job and make sure that your 12-year-old knows the consequences of your working. Explain in great detail the events that lead to this job and the cost of maintaining that job. Work with your 12-year-old to help find a better position.
If you have computer access, place your resume on as many portals as possible. There is a "free" service called k12.com that provides remote schooling. This will help with the school part of the equations. Work with the child on Sat as a special "school" day and have the child teach you the material she is pursuing. See if you can take college courses to at least the Graduate level. This will help you advance in the workplace and show your child what it takes to make it today's job market. If you are very lucky you may consider teaching at a community college.
Get your teaching certificate, even if you don't use it now. Also get a license in just about anything from sales to construction. This is your retirement! If feasible, have your child be a part of your job quest.
Just the ramblings of someone that wants to help.
Hello Ashley thanks for the different options but where I live now I don't have any family around they only come to visit every blue moon and I will have to wait to find a babysitter right now can't afford it. I don't have any friends that live here that I know very well. I won't let anyone be around my daughter especially if I don't know you
I agree with Ashley, good suggestion
You need to let her father help you pretty sure he wants to!