Terminated and torn

I already posted about this prior to the actual termination but really need to vent and get some feedback so I apologize if this is a repeat... I was with my job as a mental health counselor for a university for 11 months, the same university where I received my degree and was certain I would retire from. Last week, I was nominated for the student mentor of the year award, an award dedicated to people who’s efforts are most likely to help students succeed and become change agents in their communities. I have been commended by Vice Presidents for being the “best counselor the university ever had”, and upon my hire as the counselor, my interview went so well I was also offered an adjunct position to teach for them. All this ended on April 2nd when our new director started. Prior to her start, we had no director for 8 months so I basically ran the center and I was told by our vp that I “took the center to places it’s never been even with a full time director”. So I was on the search committee for this director and we actually decided at her phone interview that she would be eliminated because she did so terribly, but 6 months into the search with no suitable candidates who accepted the job, we repulled her from the pile because she had university experience and she came running. She accepted the job immediately and drives 2 hours each way everyday to get there. She hated me immediately and started making my life hell. Honestly the list is endless of the things she put me through so I won’t make this post any longer than it needs to be... to make a long story short, she wrote me up for “acting unethically” because I informed a student that I had a 4pm slot open who was concerned for a friend who was self harming... she said that was a breach of confidentiality somehow. I sent a rebuttal to this and reported all of the incidents that led up to this that were discriminatory in nature. We meet in HR and all of a sudden her write up changes to include that I must audio tape my sessions and submit them to her along with my notes. Retaliate much? She started tearing apart each of my notes asking me common sensical stuff like why I wrote that someone denied suicidal ideation after they made a statement that their family would be better off without them. She also sent a suicidal student home after meeting with them last week... an hour later, I had to call the police to take him to the hospital because he made a suicidal statement and proceeded to lock himself in his car! This Monday I walked into the office and receive an email from HR that I’m to attend a meeting with The VP of HR and the director. Within minutes I was told I was terminated for “not fitting in with the direction she wants to take the center”, my email access was cut off and I was asked to leave without even being able to terminate my sessions with my clients. I am trying hard to count my blessings that I won’t suffer immediate financial disaster and that I still have a part time job that I can turn full time if I need, but my students were my heart and soul and they were wronged just as much as me in all this. I am angry at the university for not supporting me through this and choosing a new employee over me, and angry that she treated me terribly and gets to come out on top. It’s so unfair and I’m so angry and I don’t know how to move forward from this anger! I just sit and reminisce about the injustice all day long! I mean I went from excellent to garbage in 3 months and I now have a termination on my record with no one to vouch for me! I’m sorry for this massively long message that was really meant to ask... how does one get over the anger after a termination like this? And how do I deal with having a termination on my record when applying for new jobs?

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Carol Jones Graves
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Something similar happened to me...as an educator...a email was sent to HR before Christmas break; which I knew nothing about and even after returning from break nothing was said during staff meetings. A week passed and I was told I was being put on a paid administrative leave. A week later I was fired...I was told I could not know what was in the email and because this is an at will state .....blah...blah...blah...the director of HR actually helped me pack my classroom and load my car....that termination has really effected my job search....in my 34 years of working in education I have NEVER been written up or fired....fyi...this was a Charter school....please share with me how to get a termination off employment record....as for mentally and emotionally dealing with situation....I am still in the grieving process between anger and blame...peace and blessings for you Anna

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Carol Jones Graves
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I still and always will believe in unions...when people started thinking and believing "paying union dues were a waste of time and why should I pay they're not doing anything for me" that's when this "at will" mess came along...yes you can weed out the bad and not be bothered but it also effectz the good and gives unethical people too much power. The union helps to balance the bite of unethical behavior...in the work place...but unfortunately a whole generation allowed or "favored" the choice of quitting when they felt like they didnt like the job or the supervisor...and not being held accountable for not being dependable...this is just my opinion....and how I watched it unfold...

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Darious Edwards
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Do not fret! Karma will catch up with her and if what you are saying is true karma will also work out in your favor. Stay positive and i promise that in a year or so you may look at this as a positive situation in your life journey.

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Stephania Russell
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Anna, I am so sorry for your grief and pray for peace to come soon. Not really knowing your situation and based upon your dilemma, have you considered contacting an attorney? May not be a bad idea. From what I hear, generally initial consultation meetings are free. Just a suggestion. Blessings.

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PAM JONES
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Yes I wonder how do you deal with a termination on record? I dont KNOW what to think about that. HR has to want to hire you and the company has to want you to work there. Be yourself is always best. Tell the truth. Is a good thing. If the person or people like you ENOUGH then you may be hired. Wish you well and best of good luck to you.

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Rolando Padilla
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Hello Ann, I have read your experience carefully and let me tell you that I feel very sorry . I have some suggestions that could help you. First af all , do not get stuck by this experience, remember that life is not always fair and some unfortunate events may happen to all of us Nevertheless we can always learn from deceiving experiences,unless it takes time. Secondly, trust in yourself. When facing a interview for a next job it is for sure you will be questioned about the termination in your last job. However and even when the reason is on your side and even if you consider you were the victim, DO.NOT SPEAK NEGATIVILY about your former boss. Talk more about your achievements and HIGHLIGHT that the you did a wonderful job before the arrival of the current director. Personal references from your other former bosses and contact information that allow the recruiter verify with them could help to demonstrate you' re an easy going and skilled professional. This is highly important to take away any misunderstanding about your performance. Then, explain as best as possible that you tryed to do your best in order to work together with your director, even when you did not agreed with her in every situation, but her methods and proposals were not according to your ethic, be natural and confident when talking about this point So, by the way you are explaining the causes for your terminarion without speaking negatively about your boss.

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mamie travers
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It something else is waiting for you when you least expected keep the faith

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Kristen Singo
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I personally would go to her boss. She was very insecure with you there, and wanted you out of the way

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Vanessa Klinger
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Move On.... As soon as you realize that you were there for a season. Your next opportunity will materialize.

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Samod Evans
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You can tell your potential employee the same thing you posted. You may some therapy. Always remember what goes around comes around. Good Luck

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