Here are some of the biggest takeaways I read on an article online, that you can learn and take with you to help as you take charge of your career (in whatever form that takes). As I look back on these lessons, I realize that they're really great reminders for us all.
Confidence Must Comes First
Successful people exude confidence - it's obvious that they believe in themselves and what they're doing. Think about it...
Doubt breeds doubt Why would anyone believe you if you doubt yourself?
It takes confidence to reach new challenges People who are fearful or insecure tend to stay in their comfort zone. You can choose courage or comfort but you cannot have both.
Unconfident people often feel at the mercy of circumstance. Successful people aren't deterred by obstacles. They fight through them which is how they rise up in the first place.
No one is stopping you from what you want to accomplish but yourself. It's time to remove any barriers created by self-doubt and let your self confidence soar.
You're Living the Life You Created
- You are NOT the victim of circumstance. The circumstances you're living in today are your own --- you created them. This means that your future is entirely up to you. If you feel stuck - it's probably because you're afraid to take the risks to achieve your goals and live your dreams. When it's time to take action - it's better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than at the top of one you don't.
Being Busy does not equal being Productive
- Look at everyone around you. They seem so busy but success doesn't come from movement. It comes from FOCUS - ensuring that your time is used efficiently and productively.You get the same number of hours in a day as everyone else. Use your hours wisely because after all you're the product of your output, not your effort.
You're only as good as those you Associate with
Strike to surround yourself with people who inspire you, people who want you to be better. And you probably do. What about the people who drag you down? Why do you allow them to be a part of your life?
Anyone who makes you feel worthless, anxious, or uninspired is wasting your time and potential. And they are possible influencing you to be more like them. Life is too short to associate with people like this. Cut them loose!
Squash your negative self-talk
- When you're taking charge of your career, you won't always have a cheerleader your corner. This magnifies the effects of self-doubt. Food for thought : Negative thoughts are just that - thoughts, not facts.
When you find yourself believing in the negative thoughts - write them down.
- Things that your inner voice says. Literally stop what you're doing and write them down. Once you are done, I promise you that you will be more rational and clear-headed. Then you can focus on the positive.
Avoid asking "What If
- Asking what if will only take you to the place you don't want - or need- to go. Scenario planning is a necessary and effective planning technique but key distinction is to recognize the difference between worry and strategic thinking about your future.
Schedule exercise and sleep
When you sleep, your brain removes toxic proteins from it's neurons - so when you don't get enough sleep, the toxic proteins remain in your brain cells, impairing your ability to think -- something no amount of caffeine can fix.
Your self-control, attention, and memory are all reduced when you don't get enough sleep. Lack of sleep also diminishes your productivity so much that you're just better off getting a full 8-9 hrs of sleep.
When you exercise, you will result in the physical changes in your body that will result in a boost in confidence. Also endorphin-fueled positively from the work out itself or physical results makes all the difference. So get in a exercise routine. It will help, I promise.
Seek out small victories
- When you're really after something else - small victories can seem unimportant but small victories build new areas in the brain responsible for reward and motivation. This increases your self-confidence and your eagerness to tackle future challenges . When you have a boost of small victories, the boost in your self confidence can last for months.
Don't say "Yes" unless you really want to
- The more difficulty you have saying no, the more likely you'll experience stress, burn out, and even depression. Saying "NO" is a major challenge for some people. "NO" is a powerful word that you should not be afraid to use. When it's time to say "NO", avoid phases like " I don't think I can" or " I'm not certain". Saying no will honor your existing commitment and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.
Don't seek perfection
It doesn't exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible
When perfection is your goal - you're always left with a sense of failure that makes you want to give up or reduce your effort. You will end up spending your time about what you failed to accomplish and what you could have done differently, instead of moving forward, excited about what you have achieved and what you will accomplish.
Focus on solutions
- When you fixate on the problems that you're facing, you create and prolong the negative emotions which hinders your ability to reach your goals. When you focus on the actions you will take to better yourself and your circumstance, you will create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions and will improve your performance.
For when you slip up, it's crucial that you forgive yourself and move on. Don't ignore how the mistakes make you feel but don't wallow in it. Instead, shift your attention to what you're going to do to chance and improve in the future.
Success lies in your ability to rise in the face of failure. You can't do this when you're living in the past. Anything worth achieving requires great risk, and you can't allow failure to stop you from believing in your ability to succeed.
I hope these lessons are useful to you as they have been to me over the years. As I write this post, I am reminded of their power and my desire to use them every day.
Bradberry, Travis. Co-Author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0. and Co-Founder of TalentSmart.12 Lessons You Learn or Regret Forever. Published on LinkedIn March 15, 2019
This is an amazingly great post! Full of inspiration at a time when I need it most, so thank you for sharing...