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Hi y'all. I'm a pretty happy go lucky guy in my mid 50's. In August my company of almost 20 years terminated my management job with no warning. It was terminated due to a failing budget although I went thru worse with this company in the past. I received no severance just the rest of the week I was to work. I lost not only my job but my sick days 270 hours ,10 days of vacation and all my benefits such as short term disability, life insurance ,health insurance and my 403b was froze. I planned on retiring from this job and as bad as it got at times I loved it. I was promoted To it and worked very hard to be in a position most people would need a degree to get....which I don't have. I was in the dumps, angry, hurt and frustrated.i stil am reeling from this two months later. So there was good news though! After five weeks and a couple of unemployment checks later I get a lead on a job thru a relative. It was for a new manger in the service business. I was stoked when I got the interview and on cloud nine when I got the job. I really didn't want to go back to the trades and services business but the job paid slightly better then my old job and had company car and cell. I started the job and right away the entire shop of trademen filled my ears with the horror stories of the owner who was handed the buiness four years ago (family) It was quickly apparent this owner was jeckal and Hyde . No matter what went on he was never happy and really had no job for me. When I questioned my work day he got upset and said he had no time for me to train he was to busy. It's a long story but it came to a head and I had to resign. The daily mental anguish was taking a toll on me. So now I'm unemployed with no unemployment Check and a family to help provide for.I'm trying hard to cope and just needed to get this out. I'm working hard to get working. Money's running out and I feel hopeless and like I failed.
Sounds like you have a lawsuit against your original company. Talk to a lawyer. Yes, us older people need to get off the “failure” belief.
Success is all how you look at it. It’s the difference between being poor or broke. Poor is a state of being — rich people can be poor. Broke is temporary and can change in a minute.
Did you love your original job? Is there a personal job you dreamed about — your own business? Do that now. You have time, even if the money is low.
Besides, if you did well before, you can do that again. This is temporary, you will prosper again.
This, unfortunately, is part of today's workforce. We have all been there at some point and you have to just press in and continue your job search until the right offer comes along. It is not always easy. I had lost my job and found another one and it turned out to be a nightmare and I had to resign. I now have something that is quite manageable and I am comfortable with it. The people are much nicer which to me is most important. Keep your chin up and keep looking and the right job will come up eventually. Your patience will be tried. There will be days that you will want to give up. You will cry. You will be angry. You will feel down-trodden but it is a test of the spirit and you will win this. Just persevere. Everything is normal and nothing uncommon to man. It has been this way for hundreds and hundreds of years. The depression was far worse. You can make it.
Reopen your unemployment claim
RC sounds like a job from hell. That was a hostile work environment.
I feel the same do. I'v worked hard all of my life. I opened my own carpet and upholstery cleaning business in the 80s making $100.00 an hour. uneducated. I got certified 3 times. the more you learn the more you earn. I am now looking for work. Very difficult. I will work for anyone for $10 per hour. The fat asses make and steal from us.
You did not fail. I read your story and it felt as though I was reading my own story. I was in the exact same position you were in. No sir, self preserving your mental health is not failing. A strong leader knows when it is time to walk away. The perfect position for you is out there. Unfortunately there is a period of suffering that must be endured before obtaining a place in which we fit.
I'm sorry your employment situation in turmoil but the one thing I did notice you stated was it you still have family to take care of be blessed for that, on 02 14 2014 I lost my oldest son gage trying to board a school bus out in front of our house but due to driver negligence and her inability to activate the stop sign in the flashing lights he was run over and killed, then his mom decided to take my remaining son away from me and not allow me any contact with him since 2015 this is brought such anguish to me that I cannot hold a job down although I received a settlement and bought a house I can no longer pay the bills or Ford keep the lights on are food on the table or just myself have nightmares every night I see no light at the end of my tunnel and sometimes I think it would be better to just join Gage so be blessed you still have but you have work will come to you you sound like you're intelligent and hard worker good things come to people like you
Praying for u..i have a story worse than yours..not downplaying urs ..just letting u know I feel for u. If ur healthy and have a good family...theres hope!
God will see you threw this....Im praying fir you...
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