Why do you treat me so Bad
Ever been a job where someone Hates you for absolutely no reason? Just thinking about writing this stuff makes me sad because I really love my job and I get along with my co-workers with the exception of one person who hates me for no reason and thinks I’m incompetent, useless, and picks on me every opportunity she gets. Whenever I realize we're scheduled to work together I become paranoid, nervous, and afraid because I know she going to judge and criticize me for everything I do. I spend the whole day thinking about her next move on me is going to be and try my hardest to do a good job but it's never good enough for her. This is a new retail service job I was able to land after months and months of job hunting. I really don't want to quit but I’m lately I’ve been miserable at work. I wish it would all just STOP. I’m not sure if I should go to the manager or try to work it out with her one on one. What would you recommend?
E Why did you let everybody know this situation? This is between you and that person only, but since I know about it : my advice to you is to have a talk with the individual one on one alone without no one in your business telling them how you feel when this person treats you in those ways and tell them to stop. If the person keeps on with the harassment then bring your supervisor into the situation to clarify but please don't quit your job because that is maybe what their intentions are toward you because of their jealousy against you. They may surely see some potential in you that you don' see and is trying to destroy it by this type of phycology making you destroy yourself by first leading you to quit your job. These are mental attacks toward you by that person and you can win by first controlling your emotions concerning the situation. Write me back soon.
Hello Tori.
Do not confront that individual. Document everything include date and time who was present and exactly what happened. Make sure you document everyday. It is easy to forget occurrences without documentation. Then go to management and present a copy of your documentation when reporting the occurrences and asking how to handle these uncomfortable encounters with your co-worker or lead person. Yes, pray before any meeting within management the workplace is not the same and you can encounter negative responses, remember your the new kid on the block.
Be careful, I'm in the same situation and I've tried everything from being friends. I have even gotten a bonus for exceptional work outside of my position, which I cannot share with her because that would make things even worse than they already are for me when it comes to her jealousy .She has pushed it to every possible limit and has successfully cornered me into possibly losing my position. I tried everything, talking to her, my managers and HR, but nothing worked. She will never be happy and I've come to the realization that it's not me, it's her insecurities and her jealousy. She is basically an unhappy person in life With her family, and everywhere. So just pray for her, unfortunately you might lose your job or be forced to find another one but remember, God will take care of you and will take care of her as well. I will pray for you and as every one of my coworkers and managers have told me, hang in there, keep your head up and stick it out if you can, if she'll let you and don't let her break your spirit or your confidence.
Speak to the person and tell them to back off but in a nice way. Sounds like them are a bully, especially if they are not your manager and once you confront a bully and show you are not afraid of them they usually back down.
Rise above! It's overflowing beyond the job and into your life. Confront the person. Sometimes that's all it takes. If that doesn't work talk to her supervisor. I've had these problems before too. We all deserve respect. Good luck, and best wishes.
Do not auit the job. My take on your situation is this person is intimidated by you. This person sounds very insecure about themself If you do go to your supervisor make sure everything is documented.
You Should go to your manager, supervisor, whomever! I've been through this at least 4 times!!! Most recently on a temp to hire! I was asked where I lived and how old I was, and was told theyd be having me back!!!then after working there only 2 days with 15 minutes of actual training, my "assignment" was canceled via an "after hours call" to my temp agency!!! They claim I wasn't picking it up fast enough!?!? I'm bummed because I had put everything into learning their product, and needed work..but!!!happy I don't have to remain working with such snobby, cruel and dishonest people...
If there is bullying in the work place go to your immediate supervisor report the incident. Get a written statement from supervisor on the steps the company is taking to resolve the issue. If the issue is not resolved find a lawyer.
There’s one of these personalities in almost every job. You can always go the manager but the best thing to get her to stop bullying you is to build some courage and stand up to her head on. Ask to speak with her during a break and mention specific examples of where she’s crossing the line. Let her know what your boundaries are and how much couching you're willing to put up with as long as those boundaries are respected. Keep it professional but standing up to a bully is the best option to stop the harassment.
We all have had people like that I have them at home we have to keep our heads up either they or jealous or miserble