Sometimes you have to change the path you are on!
I am a hard worker, and I love people, I have earned allot of money working for myself. Life changed, my boys grew into men, my husbands health went down hill and our family business came to a screeching halt. Jobs in town were becoming scarce, but I had worked in psychiatric hospitals before, and held my CNA. I adored the clients, and the majority of the staff, but I met my very first Narcissistic boss, I really don't know how I managed 11 years because she started in on me day one, it was effecting my family, I was miserable, and never have I been harassed by a much younger, educated and very mean person in my life. I am no quitter, but I had so much on my plate and harassment of that sort is unbearable, so I took an early retirement and remodeled my home took care of some bills and bought my first road-bike. I guess there is a first for everything in life, I miss the clients, but truthfully that can get pretty depressing in itself. I am finally back to being my happy go lucky me, however its time for me to go back to work. I have been looking for work online maybe doing some freelancing. I am blogging and working on learning new skills. I wonder how it is in life that we can have the keys but remain miserable and truly it hurts everyone. Mostly the ones we went to work for to begin with our loved ones. Why did I believe I had to go through all of that, like I said it was a first, but never have I ever allowed anyone to treat me so badly, and I was not alone. Anyhow this was my very first run with narcissism and that was worse than any mental or personality disorder I have ever endured. Thank goodness I am not her spouse. Enough of that, I had to vent, I planned to retire at 65, but I don't think, I would have survived it, so many people treated so badly. Great benefits, great pay and wow not any amount of money is worth that for anybody!
Never give people the permission to verbally or mentally abuse you, it's already affecting you cuz you're writing about it, quitting doesn't have any baring on your mental well being either. Its reasonable to expect if I respect you in word and deed I will expect the same, when you stand up to people like this they respect you more. Often times you are viewed as weak and some people get off on that crap cuz it gives a sense of power to them, but by any means of any type of control is a sort of witch craft. You do have a voice!, use it and cleanse your mind cuz eventually you'll hate that person and all associated with him/her. It's a mind control method indeed
It sounds like it time to find out what you want to do. Your boss isn't the issue it sounds like you're ready for something more. Mabye you should consider going back to school get your degree in psychiatry or different fields that you would think you're interested in. Look at it this way life is really starting to get interesting for you I'm sorry to hear about your husband. But it has to be about you now see if your kids can help out a little with your husband.
I think at one point we all have a boss or two like that.
Sher Pentz and Marsha Wright, I soaked up both of your comments. I can't stand narcisstic people, either. There certainly are a few to go the rounds, and that's a few too many. And 1 of you is going to get your HR degree, if you don't have it by now. I congratulate you on that. I'm sure based on your already bad exps, you will put it to good use. I'm banking on it. You hard working mom's out there, I do applaud you. I don't argue the sacrifices you mom's make for the sake of your household. You deserve to be recognized for your efforts. There was a male country singer some 20 plus years ago who recorded a song about a National Working Women's Holiday. That wouldn't bother me one bit. Sher and Marsha, I certainly hope your lives are better than they were. And, I think one of you even mentioned about going through divorce, too. I think I'm headed there, eventually. My other half likes to lie too much. That doesn't make a marriage work. But, again, I hope the very best for both of you women, and other women, too, who have had to put up w/other people's b.s.For what it's worth, may all of you be well. And, have a fantastic weekend.
Good for you. Nobody has to deal with that and I'm glad you had the guts to do what you did. Congratulations with the biking endeavor as well. You go, girl! good things are headed your way.
Gosh. I'm so sorry. I had that done to me after years and years in a company. I think they bullied me enough to make me quit. I was not the onky one either but I was the one accused of things not true...and i never felt so much hurt at a place. .and i loved me career as what I was working at. I was with that company for about 11 years as well. I was fully invested but I had 3 young babies at time and things were not good at home...but I did all I could as a full time working mom while my now ex husband stayed home with our 3 kids at time. I was an exhausted mom and went thru a bad time...I did my work to my fulleat but it was never good enough. I was harrassed daily being pulled into office for thinga that never made since. I was constantly being bullied for some reason or another. Somebody wanted me gone. So push came to shove and I finally gave in and quit. I gave a 3 week notice and than took a few montha off to enjoy my kids as my yoyngest at time was a baby 1, 3, 5, and a teenager. I actually picked up a lowest paying job after that, showing Id so that over my job I had enjoyed for so long. So than I went back to college and have gotten two degrees under my belt. And now working on a bachelors as a new almoat divorced mom. So life is Just weird things get thrown at you. Just believe there were other things that it was best you moved on tp try somethimg else. Bullying is so not okay and it seem it only got worse over time. And i so can apprecuate your pain...it took me a long time to get over accusations against me that were not true. So belive in yourself and just move on. Ita just better that way. I could of faught for being treated so unfairly but chose to just forget and move on. People take advantage of nice people and its just not fair.. So glad you shared your story. To now that im not only one. Im working on a HR degree bachelors because I want to change that in the workforce. The equal opportunity muat prevail and O want to be a change so are kids generation are mever treated so badly that they woukd not want to work bec of fear of this. Its not okay. Yes people need joba but to treat people as ants and squish on them is just not what equal opportunity is about for working class people. Take care dear and best wishes.
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work for a nonprofit you like. Give them a deal. Work two paid days and volunteer a third.
Do you still drive you could do Lyft I don't think there is an age limit or anything I do love to drive never been in a dangerous situation I have heard not so great things about Uber Lyft you can work any hours or time you can even get paid sooner for 50 cents is what I pay might depends on the area I can give you my driver code and good luck
I can hear the hurt, pain, betrayal & disappointment. I completely understand what you went through. I went through that with a coworker for years. I got laid off, she stayed, they said she has the most seniority. That experience makes you stronger. Now it’s on to the next chapter in my life.