Why don't adults get "Re-dos"?
So I am heading home and I am wishing I had a re-do on this day. You remember when you were a kid and something went wrong in a game you'd be playing and if there was a friendly older sibling, parent or teacher they'd give you a re-do. I mean, I dont even think I knew how to play pingpong without about a dozen re-dos per game. In Golf, they call it a "mulligan" which sounds so much cooler I suppose.
Sigh. We all should give each other a mulligan one day per quarter. I bet we all need one. Here's what I think instead. When you need a mulligan for not being your best - forgive yourself, move on -but learn from it. Each part is important. Hard to move on if you can't forgive yourself (I've learned that through some fabulous court-involved-assistance groups that help prior felons with job placement). But you need to learn from it too. Otherwise what's the point. We all need to grow and be better tomorrow than we are today - No matter what age we are.
So - I am heading out now. I plan to be better tomorrow. And I plan to remember to give co-workers mulligans when they need it from time to time. And am hoping my coworkers today give me a mulligan too.
Hope you do the same and others do the same for you.... Maybe a bit of patience with one another when we aren't at our best, will help all of us actually be at our best a bit more!
Someone said to me years ago, “You can’t give to others what you don’t already have”. I didn’t know this comment had a spiritual philosophy associated to it at that time but somehow it resonated in my mind and make enough of an impact to set of some critical thinking.
I’ve learned where this philosophy to be most applicable to the area of self forgiveness and our willingness to forgive others.
Not an easy practice but a necessary one. I’m a slow learner when it comes to self-forgiveness but I’m working on it. ;-)
Adults may not get re-do's, but they can get understanding from those around them who have also wished from time to time they could wind back the clock and start over fresh.
We all know the feeling and your openness about it inspires us all here at Jobcase HQ to extend compassion to our fellow teammates who may be struggling. After all, tomorrow is another day and yet another opportunity to start fresh. Here's hoping today is much, much better than yesterday. :) We appreciate you, Fred!
Hi Frederick Goff ! I am sorry yesterday was a tough day, but yes we definitely ALL have these and I am sure anyone in the community can relate. As a past educator, the thing I used to tell my students the most was, "Tomorrow is a new day." We can either make the choice to forgive ourselves as you said and start over or keep repeating the same mistakes and not moving forward. For me there is only one direction and that's towards positivity. As an adult, it certainly does become more difficult. As I become a first-time parent this year I KNOW without a doubt I will probably want at least 30 do-over days where I wish I knew more or will make silly mistakes. The important thing is to lean on those who love and support us and learn from what we have done or didn't do. I hope you have a better day today, and we are so fortunate to have someone so kind to lead us forward here at Jobcase. At the end of the day, we are all just human and we all experience those tough days. Today, however, will be a better one : )
Well put