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My older brother is been living with me for almost 4 months now. He lost his job back in January and his been living with me since then. I pay bills, food, and everything else while he sits at home and does nothing. How can I tell him nicely that its time for him to get out of the house and find a job because soon enough my girlfriend is coming to live in with me?
Just give him a heads up and let him know you and your girl going to be living together so he needs to steep up apply with jobcase and get his job going
Hello -
You may have already had this conversation but the best way to approach this is to have a sit down, realistic conversation with him and explain that the expenses of covering yourself on top of him without his contributions are affecting you financially. Express to him that you helped him as much as possible with the understanding that he needed help, but this doesn't mean that you're goal is to continue supporting him. He needs to start making plans to find stable work and either contribute to living expenses or move out. You can give him a verbal timeline to get him moving on this, and take it seriously and/or make him sign an agreement that he agrees to make his own plans to get a job and move out.
The only way to approach this is to be realistic regardless if it's a stranger or a relative. You just have to be strong in your communication without being rude and hope that he understands why you're discussing this with him.
Best of luck.
Just tell him and be honest. I've been in your shoes.
Well my friend i completely understand exactly how you feel, because i have two sisters living with me,one of them has money coming in, but does not help with the bills, but there is no easy way to say what needs to be said. I understand we love our family, but sometimes we take advantage my friend use tact,and tell him how you feel iam sure he will understand. I wish you all the best.
Simply tell him he has to be the grown man he is and don't look for a job, Get a job. Do not let him take advantage of your kindness.
Give him a month to look for a job
Tell him the time is up for him to move on as you need the space for your girlfriend now. Wish him luck.
It is a touch situation there but I think your brother should look for something to do and if he himself can get something to do or you should try and help him get a job. I do nor know which country you are from but I can sure say something loud and clear I live in Venezuela and it is extremely hard here now to find a job and if you get a job the salary for 1 day can't even feed you for a complete month every worse most companies left this country already so I think your brother should move his A__ and get something to do but the first thing is transparent communication.
Family first and just tell him to go get some money get up off his ass and get paid
I think you should be direct with your brother and tell him he needs to look for a new job, and that your girlfriend is going to live with you. Be direct and be firm about him moving out.