Should I STAY or should I GO?
Last July I took a promotional position at a school district. It was a split job between 2 depts that shared my time. In all my years of working multiple jobs....I found myself in the middle of 2 mgrs that didnt like each other. And, the job they created was a portion of someone who was not giving up the work to me as planned. Instead I found myself being questioned over silly little lies she would create. Of course I was able to prove my innocence with all the back up documentation I kept. Then I was stuck with one manager tells me to do this, and the othe manager gets mad at me for doing what my manager told me ti do. This went on for 4 months. Then naturally the other manager starts to be rude and take a tone with me (fyi-he is already on a program for his inability to work with people and was pulled from his last title to avoid getting fired) ...when he acted this way towards me and shouts out demands to me from across the room....I waited til he returned and asked if I could have a word with him. He agreed....so we went into the office with both managers and I told him that I will not tolerate being talked to by him or anyone in that unprofessional manner....especially since I see that he doesnt talk to anyone else like that. Long story short....ever since that day...him and I have had no issues and talks to me respectfully. Oddly, the other manager who doesnt like him either....and up to that point was impressed with my work....he now is cold and doesnt speak to me and few times in casual conversation in front of staff...cuts me off and now is micromanaging me. I feel like im in the twighlight zone cuz I dont know what the heck is going on. Ok, another long story short....I learn from a complete outsider that because I stood up for myself...they now are trying to get rid of me just like they du to a friend of theirs that previously worked for same mgr. She pushes and pushes me to go to Union President. Im so weak and feeling completely loss of pride in my work after these months of being questioned. But, I finally turned toward the Union President....and OMG he tells me he has known for awhile that thus was going on....and he was waiting for me to come ask for help. He further explains that its not me, he went thru exact same thing when he worked for them. At this point, Im now on medical leave while I felt I was mentally going crazy wondering what is going on. The Union President knows my worth and has appointed me Chief Job Steward starting in January when I return. He also has put the managers and their Director on notice to back off of me. I also learn that what is going on is that the managers never wanted my position and they are doing everything they can to say it doesnt work. So now the situation is getting even worse that now they still need to get me out of there before the union can place me somewhere equivalent. So I have the managers and hunan resources mad at me and shocked that i turned to union. Is all of thud worth the stress and emitiin fatigue....and the doubts it puts in my head of who to trust here anymore....I took a huge cut in my confidence that I wasnt good enough for good paying jobs...how can I even interview when my confidence isnt there....can anyone please tell me what you would do if it were you? Im 49, female....needing goid paying job until I pay off my home and for 3 more years. My previous jobs have been Exec.Admin to VP at major phone company, School Secretary, Buyer,/Quoter, I also solely supported an Insurance Agent as his Office Mgr, and now hold Life Insurance license, and I also hold Master Teacher permit from working at a womens shelter. In addition to being Assistant Director for their childrens program, I held 2 other titles as Client Coordinator and Front Office Admin. For 3 years I worked 2 jobs, day job 40 hrs and evening/weekends at shelter for 32 hrs. I appreciate any advice as I will take them all constructively to help make my decision before Im too return to that environment in 1 week. GOD BLESS & HAPPY NEW YEAR (I hope)!!!
Seeking opinions and/or advice, C.K.F.
If I was you, I would take the new position, fill out a grievance against the people retaliatiing, and move forward, if the position you will have now in Jan above them, then set them straight, tell them your expectations, keep records, and only talk to them if you need to to, work related only. Don't feel bad about their stuff, do you, be you, look forward for the great opportunities, look backwards and see who needs help getting there
Try doing some mock interviews to get some practice in and gain confidence in your interviewing skills. I think it would be really helpful.
I too having work issues, bad co worker. I'm the one that was being called in, I have been out 3 months on stress leave. All the supervisors know whats going on, (girl lives on her cell phone) she works maybe 2 hours a day of an 8 hour job. I kept complaining, because they are telling me I have to pick up the slack! I told them they are teaching her bad work habits. Every since then everytime I got called in which was many and I would complain about same thing, I would be told the answer is the same. I had to answer all phones/radios, After a year, I went to HR and complained and all they said was "Sorry". I went back to work, with "the knowledge everything will be same". My therapist asked why I didn't go to union, and I said because I really was hopeful that they would try to resolve issues. But they never once during the year or after tried to do anything. But since then I have gone to union and asked that cell phone policies be enforced for everyone. Same job title/duties , she needs to pull her weight around as well. Been at position for 18+ years and my performance report was outstanding as well. Hang in there the truth will come out! Don't compromise your health, If you have a new position, I would go, who wants to return to a place where there was no respect for you or your dedication? I agree they make us question our worth, and that is so wrong.