Rude and disrespectful
I have read so many conversations or posts on here. There is a lot of people that talk down to people that are trying to help themselves but are finding themselves in a rut. I am classified as homeless, staying with someone due to me having children and pets. My son has disabilities which prevents me from working. I am on low income housing lists all over my state (RI). My state has lost a lot of funding for emergency housing as well as state run programs. I can not afford a 3 bedroom apartment. Average cost for a 3 bedroom apartment in my area ranges from 1000 to 1300 which sometimes includes heat and hot water. Tack on another 300 for gas and electricity on average without air conditioners or fans to keep cool. I have 2 children that need a roof over their heads, my son is 8 years old, he is the one that has disabilities. My daughter is 15 and has a few learning issues. I struggle with anxiety, depression, panic attacks, ptsd, copd and chronic pain in my lower back due to sciatic nerve damage and scoliosis. Life has been a huge struggle for me. I have no biological family that been involved in my life because of their lifestyles are filled with misery, stress and drama. I choose to life drama free, away from drug addicts, alcoholics and negativity. I have a positive outlook on life but am dealing with a lot. I am grateful that I have a place to stay for a little while longer but the woman is getting extremely petty with the arguments that she is starting, spreading lies, and just plain trying to make my life miserable so she can be in control of things that do not require her to be in control of. My mother and father are very much alive but feels like they are dead due to their lack of presence in my life and my children's lives. I am appreciative of what this woman did and does but she is making it harder to stay. At this point in time, I am ready to live on the streets with my disabled son due to her being ignorant and lies. She is not worth losing everything that has meaning in my life. I do contribute ((pay rent and purchase food). I do 99.99% of the cooking. She treats my children and I like her slaves just because she gave us a roof over our heads. Acts like she is poor when she spends money that she doesn't have on materialistic items that she does not need nor does she pay her bills on time. She lies to her man about it as well, but she complains about the bills being unpaid....
My situation can always be worse so I deal with it the best way I can granted it isn't the best circumstances. I know that this is only temporary and if I can get through a lot worse, I can get through this as well. I know that losing everything can only get better by gaining better things out of life. It is all in how you handle situations and keeping positive no matter how depressing or frustrating the situation may seem. I know that I am lucky in some ways but have it hard in other ways. There is a balance and answer to my situation but I have to remain patient and continue doing what I am doing to get myself back on my feet.
Hi Lynn Miller -
I'm so sorry to hear about the situation you are in. I can't even imagine how rough it must be for you to find yourself having to accept shelter from this woman who lies and starts arguments with you while you are trying to care for your son and daughter. It really speaks to your perseverance and attitude that you are able to do so!
I took a look at your profile and noticed that you listed working at Family Dollar but in your post you said you aren't working. Do you still work there? I think the first step towards you finding your independence and freedom is going to be getting back into the workforce. I understand that this can be hard with your son to care for, however. Is your daughter able to care for him during the day? If not, are you able to communicate with your mother or father that you need their help looking after their grandson so you can work?
Please don't hesitate to send me a CaseMail (click on my profile, then message) so we can talk about this further and help you figure this out. The Jobcase community and team are here for you!
Best wishes.
Sometimes you have to asked yourself what God has planned for you. It sound pretty gloom to be in your shoes. I know God wouldn't have put this weight on your shoulders if he knew you couldn't handle it. Since you really have no ties to where your living. Meaning your parents do not have any contact with you so why stay where you were born. Next, many other states have programs in place to help you get back up onto your feet. If you believe you have the will then put out the effort to turn your situation around. No one out there can do what you can for your immediate family. Where your living is a bad environment for all included. Don't move to the street because you will eventually endure further heart ache. Inquire about the immediate things you need to have in your families lives. Shelter, food, security, medical help. Next look into those avenues. Turn your problems into relief's for financial help. Get doctors reports for your son and yourself. Use these for your benefit and not as reason why you cannot do better. Many people are in same or worst conditions but they never stop trying to correct the issue's. I had mine and resolved them without anyone helping me. It makes you stronger in the end. I wish you good fortune in the future but you have to make it happen. Be an example to your 15 yr old child. Otherwise expect what she shows you in the years to come from the example you provided her.