Lisa Allen-Shields
about 1 year ago
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Do I deserve another chance?

I was fired from my job of 3 years for falling asleep. I care for my disabled husband after he broke his neck a year ago. Having had a particularly rough night caring for him, I got about 3 hours sleep. The office was very quiet that day and I had completed my work. After being allowed to complete my day, I went home. When I went to work the next morning, I was immediately sent home without pay. It took them 2 weeks to officially fire me. My unemployment was denied. My former employers didn't even mention the fact that I was always early, that I often went out of my way to do company business, was proficient in my responsibilities, and we'll liked by clients. Now, I can't seem to find a job anywhere. I feel like they have black balled me and are giving negative responses to perspective employers. As hard as I tried to appease my supervisor, nothing was good enough. What do you think?

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Alan Winter
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Cintact the EEOC and get a employment lawyer.

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KRIS WHITE
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Hello Lisa, I am sorry you were terminated, most companies have policies written for on the job time and attendance unless you can arrange for personal time off, you could put yourself in harm's way if there were a fire or trespasser in the building. I am not trying to overlook being exhausted which can be a problem if you are driving, I had an accident from falling asleep. PLEASE get proper rest or call in which is a possible justification in your situation. Kris

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Divya peddapalyam msc.biotechnology
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of course you deserve another chance..dont give up..Dare to dream and strive to achieve...All the best..take care of your husband...

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Philip Dyar
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I know the feeling I had a job and basically the same thing happened to me was a truck driver for a company for 2and a half yrs if I had a problem not only could I tell them what was wrong but most the time I could fix it instead of calling a road service saving them thousand of dollars.Had a steering tire go down and left the road totaling the truck and gave myself a head injury was pretty out of it and went to the workers comp doctor and stepped out of the office to talk to insurance company and they said that I refused to take a urine test and signed a refusel paper tried to tell them that I was in no shape to know what I was signing even the doctor said I had to see a neurologist before I get to go back to work and they fired me now I have to fight the DOT and every body else to try and clear myself only wreck in 30 years of driving never refused any drug test everso I know we're your coming from my advice to you is what I am going to to do FIGHT them SOB'S good luck and best wishes

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Francine Allen
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What about the Family Medical Leave Act? Would that apply/have applied in your situation? I think it might be worth getting some legal advice (if you haven't already). Yes. I know that hiring an attorney can be expensive, so I would suggest looking up the FMLA online and then seeing about any employment counseling services to which you might be able to have access. Perhaps these services could assist you in finding one of those attorneys who only charges a fee if you win the case. I suggest this because when I was undergoing treatment for stage 2 breast cancer I spoke to a social worker at the hospital where I was being treated (maybe your husband's hospital or medical team can connect you to a social worker or has one on staff, although I know that insurance and stuff can be a hurdle). The social worker in turn connected me with an attorney who specializrd in filling for disability and only charged if you won the case. In my case I recovered and went back to work (although I really have less energy post-recovery, and so my husband and I decided that I will only work part-time). Still, I thought it was worth pursuing trying to get disability retroactive to the two years when my treatments and surgeries made me too tired to work at all outside the home. (I could manage a little housework and errands on my good days, but that was about it).

Now Disability, in my experience, is not easy to get. The government isn't all that compassionate about people who have legitimate difficulties, as we all do from time to time. You practically have to be on your deathbed to get disability, but in your case, you'd be looking into a different program, the Family Medical Leave Act. I think it gives e time off from work to care for a sick family member. I can't give you legal advice, but maybe a lawyer or an employment counselor could help you to determine if it SHOULD HAVE APPLIED to your situation, and then you will have the credibility that you need and deserve with potential employers. You may want to start by calling your regional United Way, or a local community college and asking for advice about local resources to help you get employment that would accommodate your schedule of needing to care t your husband. If that meant going to part-time employment maybe there are government programs (or at least tax breaks) to help you financially. In truth I'm kind of skeptical about whether there are such sources of government aid, but I think we need to tell our stories to our elected officials, and be activists, educating the public away from the stereotype that people who depend on government or private charity for help are all "mooches" Sorry for getting political but ultimately we need to do what we can to change the social and political atmosphere around issues for caregivers as well as for people with disabilities, and this is regarding job-opportunites as well as financial aid. I went to my state capital of Lansing, MI for "meet your legislator" day about a year ago as I was beginning to recover more energy from my treatments, and spoke on behalf of people who were in danger of being cut off from Medicaid if they worked less than 30 hours a week unless they qualified for disability. The state legislator I spoke to was a woman who is a Republican, but she too had had breast cancer treatment and so she said she related to my story, and though 30 hours was excessive given that people in our situation wouldn't have qualified for disability. She said she would try and argue in the legislative sessions for a minimum of 20 hours a week instead of 30. That 20 hours became the state requirement. Perhaps I played some role in helping out in lessening this hardship for people whose health is compromised and who would qualify for Medicare (I don't, but I know that were it not for my husband's salary I probably would have been poor enough to need it). Anyway, I think the best thing you can do is be an advocate for yourself in terms of getting laws changed at the same time you perservere in finding a job which will not only suit your considerable skills but which will give you the schedule accommodations that you need. Lastly, discuss with any job-counseling or activist or support group you may deal with the fact that workers like you can prove to be valuable to employers, despite needing accommodations like time to care for their loved ones. We no longer live in a society where mom's all stay at home with the kids, or where we ship people who are elderly or severely ill off to nursing homes. We are (slowly) becoming a more inclusive society, and some employers are gradually starting to realize this. I think it's worth it to find out how , as I've outlined above, how to go about getting a referral to some sort of employment counseling resource which can help you find a job in which you can prove your considerable value. Good luck.

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John Hamilton
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You need to consult an attorney. It is possible they violated the family medical leave act.

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amarachi ONWUKA
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Healthcare

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Stacie Grace
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It's againts the law to give negative feed back about a previous employee as for saying anything about you they can only admit or deny that you have ever worked for them.

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Ronnie Baugh
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Sue

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Emily Harrison
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Wow I have almost the exact story! I was a contract employee however. The company i was contracted to work at loved my work ethic and even rewarded me with 2 of their silver gear awards ($$) BUT having a supervisor who dislikes on a personal level and whom nothing you do seems to please .....never bodes well for the subordinate, me! Hence my termination..... the reason they gave U.E. was that I worked past 5 pm without expressed permission, funny I got fired for working hours that I did not get paid for yet I still didn't get paid for those hours even after I was fired. .. I feel your pain and can really relate to the unfairness of it all

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