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I am losing my commitment

It's been 3 months since my back up took a leave of absence to pursue her license and they informed that they will hire for an intern to take over her job, since then my supervisor had started to see my mistakes, petty mistakes that make him yell in front of everyone. I never had any escalation that puts the team in a bad situation. Everyday i feel like i never did something right for him. I know he doesn't mean it and that's his way of educating and supervising his people but i am starting to lose my self-esteem and commitment. I am traumatize by just seeing him every morning he arrives and praying for a day without interaction with him. I know i am not great and i believe every process are meant to be learned slowly. I am wondering what is wrong with me provided that this isn't my first job and i am in good terms with my previous leaders until today. Should i stay or not?

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Lori Baker
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I used to work for someone like this they're just abusive bullying asses and it's not going to get better until you confront them and make it better. I left the situation because she was the owner and I didn't have that much invested there. Do yourself a favor and get a book called The A*** Survival Guide. Pray about it and let this jerk know that whatever is going on, he should praise in public and critique in private. You are not paid to be his ceremonial whipping girl.

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Darnell Kelly
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If your not happy where u at u should. Leave because there always some out here u will appreciate the work u do and train u inn the thr errors that u are weak inn

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John Desir
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Greetings Miss Arrogante, To consider leaving a job because of a bully,is to behave like a coward and a loser. You should not abandon your job, betraying the confidence of the one who gave it to you , just because one in a senior position has singled you out for victimization.Make your face stronger than his, ignore him and that storm will pass.Though it must be small consolation to you, remember that sticks and stones can break your bones but words can do you no harm.Do your work to the best of your ability,collect your pay and live the life that you love. Don’t worry, just be happy

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annabelle M.
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There's nothing wrong with you. I have noticed, both in myself and in other coworkers, that the harsher a boss is, work performance actually goes down instead of improving. Odds are, he will not change his management style. If the situation is intolerable, I would leave. There are all different types of bosses out there. Your new job could be a completely different experience! Good luck to you!

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cynthia Crawford
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I don't allow yelling at me.I ask them to discuss stuff in private, that its unprofessional to humiliate others in public.Also ask them to let me know when they need to vent.I had one boss that would vent to me because I was always his best employee and needed to calm down before speaking to others.He was so loud and would warn me he wasn't yelling at me. :0

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Rafael Angel LopezFerrer Sr.
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Stay and take a stand! Yelling at a subordinate is not part of educating and supervising a crew, so don't justify his behavior like a battered wife would. If I were you, I'd go straight to HR and have them discipline him good! Go now.

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Robert Odulio
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Stick around until you find another job. Talk to HR and probably move to have you report to another person.

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Erin Winfrey
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Hi Cherry,

If I am to understand correctly, this is a temporary position while you fill in for someone who has taken a leave of absence. If my assumption is correct, once they find a permanent replacement for her, you will be either moved or laid off... perhaps a blessing.

Secondly, if you are making mistakes, it is your leader's job to spot them and to teach you. The responsibility is squarely on his head. A mistake made once or even a couple of times is understandable, but it also means you were not trained how not to make the mistake. Think about this when you are quick to blame yourself.

A good leader will take you aside and show you what to do, to motivate you to learn and continue to improve. A good leader and manager will spot your strengths and weaknesses and push you in a direction that will best suit your strengths.

Demeaning an employee in front of others is not only unprofessional, it is creating a toxic work environment.

Hold your head high and start looking elsewhere. If you're praying every day not to see this person, it sounds pretty dire to me.

Good luck in the future. May you find a job where you can feel confident about asking questions, admitting to mistakes, and be always growing.

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LaDonna Hill
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U should stay only if the job offers you compensation for doing her work as well or find u someone to intern for her

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Priscilla Sloan
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Cherry Ann- There’s NO excuse for rudeness! It is rude to yell at someone for making a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes! And yelling at an employee is disrespectful. Stay until you find another job. Who wants to work for a JERK!

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