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Seraphima (Sister Nichola Hekma) Shagoury
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Age 53 And Getting Laid Off is Really Frightening/Pissing Me Off!

Hi all -- I'm new here. I'm normally a well balanced individual, but I was laid off from 3 years of loyal service to the same company this November. Filed for Unemployment Benefits, food stamps right away -- the whole shebang that takes up to 1 month to be cleared with the State benefits department. There just must be a helluva lot of layoffs going on -- you used to be able to get your emergency food stamps right away 6 years ago in Texas! Anyway, my hopes for driving with Uber on a budget were simply crushed this week. And I mean it crushed the life out of me ....after I researched what budget you need to lease to own a car to drive for Uber full time. It's like, $450 a week with gas factored in, not to mention a non-refundable $500 deposit with the leasing company called "Fair." (really?? LOL!) If that weren't bad enough, I just have had so many jobs throughout my life that I hated. And I mean HATED because I never had an opportunity to finish my education and take all that experience into becoming an Active Nun in the Church. Now that I'm an "old lady" still out in the rat race, I have a huge problem with work/life balance and autonomy/authority on the job. The old Mick Jagger song "ya gotta serve somebody" is still true but ..... I have big time problems even respecting companies enough to write a freaking cover letter. To me, cover letters are almost like boot-licking: you might love the job you see, or the company you see, but there could still be something seriously wrong going on within (like all the ca-ca drama at my past job of 3 years.) I just don't trust employers anymore, but didn't have an independent gig going for myself during those crappy 3 years that shows my true abilities.....how do I get over this GIANT mountain of resentment faced with "working for the man" again instead of Ubering? Please help me get a good perspective back on the road ahead!

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Matt Bornhorst
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Hi Seraphima Shagoury ,

I'm really sorry to hear about your lay off. I know that can be really tough and demotivating. Especially if it was not from a competence issue, but budgetary... been there!

As for your perspective.. well it really depends. If you actually hate working for other people so much, and you know that you are going to be really unhappy just going back into another corporate setting, then it might be useful to start setting up an "independent gig" like you mentioned, and searching for a 'main' job on the side.

No one is going to be able to say some magic words to convince you of the good of working for someone - you have to be willing to understand it and truly want to change your opinion on that.

I hope this helps!

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