Todd Flanagan
almost 4 years ago
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The Daily Commute is Killing Me!

I commute 55 miles to and from work everyday which translates to about 75 mins each way; on a good day. Over the years, the roughly two plus hour commute and time spent in a sedentary position in front of the computer all day at work have taken tremendous toll on my health and home life. I’ve put on 20lbs, develop hypertension symptoms, and depression. I’ve tied every kind of diet and exercise plan available to help me get my weight under control with no success. My last visit to the doctor ended with a new prescription med to control my cholesterol. I’m always too exhausted or stressed to play with my 2 year old daughter when I get home and on the weekends.

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Edna Thackeray
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you can move closer to your work and more importantly, schedule me time to do what you like..play with daughter, fix something, take a nap, cook something for yourself that you enjoy, watch a movie...anything to lift your spirits

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Edna Thackeray
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having a two year old is hard work...let alone having to work for a living....a schedule is important and sticking to it...time for work ...time for family...and time for down time....so you are not lost in the pressures from everyone and everything..

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Jim Towarnicki
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Todd, Dude listen to yourself!!! You must really LOVE your job to allow it to ruin your health and family life. It's not worth it brother! Move closer or find a new job. How much is your family and your health worth? Now look at your salary. You can buy just about anything with money.... except a happy family and good health. Would you be better off working 2 local lesser paying jobs if you had too? Maybe one that requires some motion or physical activity?

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Guy Leonard
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Todd, its the job, not you. I had a similar problem many years ago. My commute was 1 hour 45 minutes one way, my earnings were based on salary plus commission for sales, and to top it all off the boss was an ego maniac who made unreasonable demands. Medication helped with my anxiety and depression to a point. UNTIL I realized no job was worth my health. I threw the Valium off a bridge on the way to work one day and told the boss to fuck off and quit. I adopted an attitude that NOTHING was ever going to bother me again. I took 45 lbs off simply by eating less and exercising in small ways. I call it my La De Da therapy.

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Melody Ryan
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Count your blessing that you have employment! I had a 60 - 75 min commute 2X a day for almost 25 yrs. Now, my IT job was outsourced and I've been unemployed just over 2 yrs. I'd give anything to have a job. I know it can be difficult and the radio gets old; but try audio book at the library, that helps. I used my time in the car to gather in my mind my work task list in the morning commute; then used the time home to "breathe" and unwind. So, when I walked in the house, work was behind me and family was before me. I did miss some of the kids games and events, but I was able to make a good income to send them (3) to college; and they appreciate what My husband and did for them today. It takes a village to raise a family, and I was blessed to have wonderful in- laws that helped once in awhile. Good luck, and try to make the best of your time during your commute!

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lisa maxwell
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what state and what county

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Alana Waters-Piper
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Hi Todd,

Lots of great ideas suggested for how to physically handle the strain. I've had some pretty long commutes as well over the years. Audiobooks have taken a lot of the drudge out of it for me. Maybe try an Audible account and see if it makes that time in the car a bit more enjoyable. There have been times when I've sat in the driveway because I wanted to finish a chapter of a good story.

Would your boss be open to a day a week working from home?

Best wishes to you.

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Kymber Stephens
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I know that my comment doesn't offer any sound advice, but I believe that it is completely unfair and extremely draining to have to spend so much time at work that there is little left to enjoy our lives. We are all so much more than our jobs and our society should be such that we reflect that. Instead we are working longer and longer hours in order to make ends meet and pay the bills. This country survives on the backs of working middle class and we carry so much more than our share of the burdens...especially when it comes to welfare!! I so feel your pain and sooo desire a change in this so called system they call a government for the people, by the people. It certainly is NOT!

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Peg Jardin
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Wow I am sorry you are experiencing this. The commute aloe is a lot of stress as you are alone in your thoughts. Is there anyone you could carpool with so you would have conversation? So many others have offered great suggestions for your physical and mental health. These threads are great for all of us. I didn't want to drive so was lucky to find a job nearby. I walked one mile to and from work and felt physically healthy. But my job was a stress and I was fired a month ago. You post has motivated me to walk before/after applying for jobs. Thank you for your post.

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h a
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Similar story here. Long commute, overtime and poor sleep or the lack thereof made life hell. Til i found meditation. Sitting still 10 min before i start my day has turned my life around in 6 months time. I'm way more productive, off meds, focus is sharp and even with 5 hours of sleep a night, im way more energized. To top it all off, i quit smoking after several attempts with latches, gums, etc...it's been 5 years since. And to think it didnt cost me anything but 10 consistent minutes a day.

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