We all know the feeling of being overwhelmed by what’s happening in our lives. Stress around money can compound those feelings; having us start to worry and stress more about our situation. We know we need help but how do we ask for it to ensure that we get the help we need? Jobcase is here to help you get the help you need in times of stress.
Are you ready for step one?
You might have the belief that you should be the one to fix your own problems all the time.You may have heard cautionary tales about people who rely too much on others and may have promised yourself that you would always be independent.
It is hard to ask for help, and keeping ourselves trapped in fear about reaching out to others makes it even harder. This is why we often don’t do it until we’re backed into a corner by life.. In order to ask for (and accept) help, you will need to lose those unhelpful beliefs and open yourself up for receiving help..
Repeat this to yourself to change your perspective: Asking for help does not weaken me, but makes me stronger by opening me up to the power and support of my community. The foundation of community is people helping people.
Maybe you’re having trouble paying your bills. This is a pain many of us have felt before, and yet, telling someone that you’re unable to pay your bills doesn’t provide needed information for them to help you.
Not having enough money to pay the bills describes your pain, but describing your pain points is more specific than that. A pain point statement describes the pain you’re in now, but it also describes the events that contributed to your current situation. In describing your story, you allow others to offer you solutions in the ways they best can.
So instead of saying, “I’m unable to pay my bills,” you might say instead “After being suddenly laid off, I was forced to take a lower paying job in an industry that doesn’t value my qualifications, which has left me unable to pay my bills after several months.” The pain you describe remains being unable to pay bills but describing your pain points adds the detail of being laid off, taking a lower paying job and feeling undervalued. Someone who wants to help you now has many more openings to provide information, support and opportunities, depending on their ability to help you.
Who knows...maybe someone will reply with the support or encouragement you need to hear!