Peter Lopez
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Does anyone have experience working with nosy coworkers who tend to steamroll others? I don’t know if it’s because I’m the youngest in age but I’m a little tired of getting unsolicited help and feedback from my coworker. I understand she meant well but she’s not the boss. She often steps over other people’s toes and dictates how she prefers our work to be done. The boss is not doing anything about it because she’s one of the more senior employees. I’m seriously thinking about transferring or finding a new job because I don’t want to deal with this toxic environment.

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Marcus Meisner

wpw van't keep playing favorites bad for co- workerd and the company

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Shane Flanagan

Well, Peter, the bad news is that we are living in a toxic society right now, where people are being rebellious against each other, coworkers trying to convince you to have no authority over them (and that they do), I've been where you're at. Now I don't know where you work, but the best piece of advice I would give you is to either transfer to another store where you won't deal with that "nosy coworker," or search for a new job that somehow interests you. Hopefully, this helps with what you're going through at work Peter!

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Priscilla Salzberg

Must be delicate. Is boss female too? Are there a lot of females there? Send the supervisor an email. Email should state the name of the employee continuously approaches me without my solicitation and keeps talking to me. She is interfering with my getting my work done. Please ask her to stop approaching me without me asking or without the directive of supervisors. Print out a few copies for yourself and forward a copy to your phone and home computer. If anything happens there is a record of a complaint and that management was aware of the issue. I don't know how easy it will be for you to find another job. You will likely have other problems in the new place. In the event you have a more serious problem later the email documents the issue. It is better than directly confronting the co-worker. You don't want people to hear you or see you complaining because then they complain about you. You have to decide if you want to stay there or not. If they have employee reviews they will say and see that you don't get along with your co-workers.

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Nenita Herrmann

Is this really a problem for you to the extent that you’re thinking of transferring or looking for another position? It’s not irresolvable. You can welcome her suggestions, ignore them or be diplomatic. People have issues in their lives that manifest in many ways. Have you seriously listened to her suggestions? Do they have merit? She has the experience but you don’t. The boss lets her do it because the boss doesn’t know what she knows and is happy to have her show you. How bad is that? I’d welcome any suggestions. I don’t have to do them. Why be petty? Life would be more pleasant and happy if we got along. I wouldn’t be too hasty. This shouldn’t give you nightmares! Be happy.

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Ella Bellah

Same here. I worked at goodwill for two months and one lady that worked there before me acted like management bossing us newbies around so I quit

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Arlene Lewis

I've got the same issue

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Carolyn Faul

Understand where you are coming from! The best thing you can do is to stand up for yourself and ask if you can speak to her for a minute, away from everyone else. Remain calm and explain that you are an adult and very professional. If she could just mellow out a little bit and let people just be themselves. You appreciate that she's trying to help, in her own way, but it's a little to micro-managing. Kiss up to her and just use some psychology. You will feel better about yourself that you remained strong and did something about the situation rather than to walk away. Best wishes! Hope this helps.

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Deanna Ortiz

Setting your boundaries is huge! There is a way to keep it professional while also letting them know their advice and micromanagment is not welcome

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Rita M.

Yes I’ve had enough experience in my life dealing with the “ know it all” attitude of coworkers or just plain nosey people.

Just say in a nice way that you appreciate their feedback but this is something you’ve been tasked with so please allow you to do your own job without interfering.

If that doesn’t work, file a complaint with HR. Something has to give. If nothing works, look for other employment if possible because these type people will not change. Good luck..

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