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Debbie Hudson

Extremely frustrated

I recently applied for a position and received a phone call to set up a phone interview. This interview lasted about 30 min. I was told that I was one of 10 applicants out of 250 that was chosen. A few days later I received a phone call letting me know that someone else was offered the job. A couple months go by and the job is posted again. I applied again. I received another phone call and was ask to come in for a face to face interview. A couple weeks go by and once again the job is posted again. Now you must know that I have many years experience. I do not have a 4 year college education but I do have an Assoc degree. I am a humble person but yet I get upset when someone takes credit for my ideas. When it comes to interviewing I do not do very well. I really have no accomplishments to speak of that makes me stand out from others.
After seeing the job posted again I found an email address and sent them an email letting them know that I was still interested and that I was the best person for the job.
Now I want to tell you that when I went for the face to face I filled a permission sheet to do a back ground check that included stating my birth date. In my interview I was asked how long I intended to work. My answer was as long as I can. Now, most of the people working there I know and are older than I. Also , the CFO of the company asked me who my husband was. He and my husband has had a few run ins with each other which I was not aware of.
I feel that I might be overlooked because of this. I do not want to mention this to the CFO that just because he may not see eye to eye with my husband does ist mean I am the same type of person he is. We do business with this company.
Not sure how to proceed from this point.


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Unfortunately who we know or are associated with can have an impact on us. I would say keep looking for other opportunities.

F. Katz, MBA

Sure but there were a lot of things that happened here that are wrong. Asking a person who appears over the age of 40 for their birthdate or how long they intend to work, in general, are both EEOC violations. Next, asking who her spouse is or even if she is married are both prohibited questions for an interview and can be considered discriminatory if the person conducting the interview introduced the topic.
File an EEOC complaint at the very least and also move on...this is a company that clearly sounds unprofessional.

Ron Weaver

Your hubby has blown your chances for this job.

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I agree that some of the questions asked were not legal, but unless the interview was recorded an EEOC complaint will go nowhere, I also agree that you should move on as the association b/t your husband and CEO will impact the decision to hire..I suspect you were finally asked to come in to verify that in fact you were related to your husband, move forward...the fact that this position is open over and over again should also be a red flag.

F. Katz, MBA

Fran...Making a complaint to the EEOC does in fact often get results. A lot of settlements begin this way as the employer often times will not want to waste time and money to fight in court if the complaint is valid....and this company has made several errors. Trust me...I've seen it a million times.

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I have to agree with Matt. Upper management can be very petty. Hope for the best but expect the worst.

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Don't take this personally. You are empowered person whom would indeed be appreciated by many companies. So please don't allow the opinions nor attitudes or views of that company get to you. And don't be surprised when you get hired by a much better company.

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A fellow Jobcaser

...Exactly....why bark up de wrong tree??...if thar is Bad Blood between your husband and the CFO---of course you won't get de job---BUT more importantly, look OUT if you suddenly get the might be the CFO's way to get Back at your Hubby---but thru YOU !!...plenty of fish in de Sea, why you would even apply at this place is disaster written all over it...start somewhere Fresh...

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Well if you feel frustrated just get ready. Next time you will go be ready for the interview. Self esteem and seld confidence will help you a lot and is the only thing you will need. Visit internet on your free time and there are numerous sites that will help you a lot to load those weapons. So far might be empty but after a while you will be ready to shot answers like nobody before did. About your husband...when they ak you about him you can simply say my husband has nothing to do with this interview..i apply for my self and i know im the best person for this job. Also seek for interview answers. I hope these lines will help you to get there

Christine Kochinsky

I absolutely wish the very best for you, Debbie. The competition for every position is so high, hiring managers/decision makers are truly forced to go through a process of elimination. And if it comes down to multiple, qualified candidates, they will naturally begin eliminating ones with negative associations versus those without. NT your fault, and not actually fair, but that is the situation. Don't give up on this position, but continue your search. And never mention what you think has gone awry with this particular position to any other employer. That will only come across as negative, and give them cause to wonder..

Yvette Jones

Proceed with a complaint. Probably talk to the head of human resources or report to labor department about their funny hiring practices. Tell them you feel you were discriminated against because of your age. I feel that that is the case with me. An agency, EXpress personnel called me in and did all of this testing of which I scored in the upper 90%. When I told her what happened to the interview she said she was going to set up she said oh well I thought that position was opened but it isn't but dont worry your at the top of my list. I feel that this is a form of fraudulent hiring practices. I am also 52 so that might be another big reason, but I don't like this discriminatory practice. I found out that this lady at the agency does do that as she has done it to others. So I have registered with the employment workforce. You can also do your own work back ground check for a small fee and if you find anything that is untrue or defamatory you can sue the company for causing undue hardship and portraying you in a very bad character. I myself have many years of work, am very kind, respectful, resourceful, and multi tasker. Anyway, Good Luck to you Debbie. Do that employment background check and see what comes up. Sometimes there are co-workers speaking against you that you never thought would do that.

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What is an employment background check that I can do myself? Where can this be done?

Gary Wipperman

I agree with Yvette with one exception: I would wait until securing a position at another place of employment. Once you have done this; file a grievance with the place that violated your rights. Allow them to answer within a set period of time ( make sure it is a written grievance and tell them you want a written reply; no text or email responses accepted); then file your complaint with the EEOC with the evidence in hand with their response.

Esme Deacon

And what exactly will that do for her? Nothing. Debbie, this opportunity was not for you. Move on and good luck!

Tyese Rhule

Some of the questions asked of you are illegal and can be cause for a discrimination case. It seems to me the company is extremely biased and personally I wouldn't pursue employment with them any further.

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A fellow Jobcaser

Sometimes they think that because your the wife of a colleague and they don't see eye to eye that you might try to influence decisions at work. Work is work and not to be taken home. Also, he might think that if your on board that you would automatically side with any decision your husband chooses. It would be like another voice against him. Plus usually family shouldn't be working with family in the same area of any company. Different areas should be fine with in the same company though.

Mary Peitersen

The CFO violated EEO law several times. Asking who your husband was (I'm sure he doesn't ask this of the male candidates)--a No-no. Asking now long you intend to work--Another No-No. Personally, if you ever get this question again, I'd answer something like, You know, I haven't even thought about retirement yet. Members of my family routinely live well into their 90s (say this even if it isn't true) so I'm still just a kid by their standards.

I think that the message you want to convey to the CFO is that you are a professional and you keep your work and private lives separate. Don't go into your personal life any more than you have to--the CFO should not have gone their in the first place.

What is this nonsense about you having no accomplishments to speak of? Any one who has been in the workplace many years has many strengths or skills--great customer service skills, problem solving skills, organizational skills, time management skills, etc. Think about what strengths you have and how they would help you in this position. At your age you have a ton of life experience that no 20-something is going to be able to match. Young people may have the energy to work harder but you have the experience to work smarter--and in the end it is productivity that really matters. Say to yourself I can run circles around a 25 year old doing this job. Now repeat it until you believe it!

But finally, ask your self if this is really going to work out for you in the long run. You won't be able to complain about the CFO to your husband (who already has a low opinion of him). And if you already know most of the people working there--well it might become difficult to keep your private life and your work life separate, as you should.

Kay Stone

Debbie, you did not mention what type of position you were applying to, or what your AA degree was in. However, the first part of your posting troubles me more than the fact your husband has had run ins with the CFO of this company.

First you need to ooze self confidence when interviewing, no matter what company or position you have applied to. When asked what you have accomplished you need to have a real answer such as I always met all critical deadlines when given a task, or I worked with a team who devised new processes that saved X hours. You cannot show yourself as the wallflower who is hidden in a corner. Second when asked about your weaknesses, you need to show that while you do have one, it is something your are aware of and have taken steps to overcome. Such as, I have a hard time saying no when asked to do an extra task which had created undo stress on me;; however, I have learned to analyze my current assignments and now can tell the person a more reasonable timeline for completing the new tasks.

You did not mention how your husband and the CFO knew each other in the business community, and what type of run ins occurred. If they are in a competing business, the CFO should understand that differences are a normal thing. I think you may have missed an opportunity by not telling the CFO that you were not aware of your husband's encounter with him because you did not get involved with your husband's business affairs; and that if hired, you would not allow your husband to influence you regarding this position.

Finally, asking you how long you planned to be working is approaching, if not crossing the line towards age discrimination, and you should not answer it.

Debbie Hudson

The position is for AP. My AA is for accounting.
After being rejected for so many interviews self esteem starts to deteriorate.

Kay Stone

I totally get that your self-confidence my be eroding, I was recently unemployed for about 4 months when the contract position I had was terminated. I have a masters degree in accounting, and for the most part i did not get a reply from the hundreds of resumes i sent, or i got the canned your resume is outstanding, but ... or you are overqualified, However, in mid December I found a great position. I have a few friends who do AP, most of them only have an AA degree, which is usually what is required for these positions.

Even still when you show up for an interview, you need to be self-confident, and show the hiring manager that you want and can do the job. To set yourself apart, think of one or two things you have done that made a difference, they do not have to be major, then practice saying them outloud until it becomes routine. Hiring managers are looking for people who take ownership in their work, and strive to do a good job.

Jill Burress

You got a glimpse of management in your interview process. Personally, I wouldn't want to work there.

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No you see it would not be in the cfo's best interest to discriminate againts you. The cfo's reputation is called in to question if he did. If he has a problome with you husband that is a conflict of interest. He must do what is will find a job

Randall Hornibrook

Debbie -

As usual comments here range from helpful advice to sheer nonsense that could waste time and money and cost you future jobs. From what you write, I see no EEO violations and any claim would be useless.

Your husband's identity. Employers are not allowed to ask IF you are married, but if that information is out there (such as your emergency contact, or you mention it in an interview or application) the IDENTITY of your spouse is not protected. Associations are an important part of the hiring process - that is what letters of reference from individuals who know you are. A letter from Mahatma Gandhi will have more weight than one from Joe Smith.

Your age/birthdate. While an employer cannot ask your age, you waived that when you signed the permission form for a background check. You age was not directly being asked for hiring purposes (fitness for job) but for identification purposes (to distinguish you from mass murderer Debbie Hudson, for example).

Don't get me wrong - I believe age discrimination is the most prevalent hiring discrimination out there. It is multi-faceted, unlike things like sexual orientation or race discrimination, which generally hinge on one specific bias. Age discrimination can have different values for different employers. It can be because age can be correlated with being set in doing things a certain (wrong) way, energy, willingness to work ridiculous hours or stay with a boring job, pay expectations which lead to dissatisfaction and quitting, etc.

The fact that this business has many older employees indicates to me that there is no youth culture which values youth per se (although the job you are applying for may be more suited to a younger, more exuberant person, which I cannot know).

Asking about how long you plan to stay. This is a legitimate question, often obliquely asked with Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Any business, other than temp work, has an interest in knowing that a person they hire and train will be around long enough to make that training (which causes productivity issues not just with the new hire but other workers training and being supported by that hire) worthwhile.

Bottom line, hiring discrimination is very difficult to prove, and complaining about it or thinking about legal action is a waste of time better spent finding a better job. You do not know the applications or interviews of people who were hired; they may look better than you on paper (even having a BA to your associates degree) which would be enough to protect against a discrimination claim. You cannot prove it, unless you find, through expensive discovery, that the CFO's opinion of your spouse affected the decision, and I can tell you that that smoking gun email will not be disclosed (ask Lois Lerner...).

You also want to avoid, frankly, postings like this (if under your real name) which employers can easily find by Googling you. You belittle your accomplishments and interview ability (the later would impact consideration of any job requiring public contact). As you note, the employer got 250 applications for one job; the person sorting though this has the arduous task for weeding out the vast majority for a few interviews. Often before interviewing someone they will Google them just to see what they find. Even the slightest negativity can be used as a filter to weed out otherwise promising candidates.

You would be much better off working on your interview skills and awareness of your accomplishments to prepare for future applications. My wise cousin told me how he had to make introductions of three people whom he didn't like. He went to his pastor for advice, and was told that for the next week he should make a list of good things about each person, adding at least one good thing every day for each person. By the end of that week he had so many good things to say that the introductions went perfectly, and he was able to praise people he didn't really care for before. He also gained a greater appreciation for these people.

You need to start taking stock of who you are, making a written list or note on your phone (not in your head) of your accomplishments and strengths. Many may not be applicable to the job market, but you will find yourself remembering things and re-evaluating things. Some ideas will lead to others. Don't dwell on the negative but the positive.

I have had many widely divergent careers over the past 50 years. Decades ago, as an ordained minister, one of my challenges was to come up with sermon ideas each week. It forced me to look at things differently, to view my life experiences as a source for inspiration. I recall one situation where, while visiting my dad, I banged my head against a hanging plant, knocking it down and making a mess. An every-day occurrence for a klutz like me, but I got a sermon out of it.

Don't view your life as uneventful, look for meaning in your experiences and what it taught you. Think of how these experiences can assist you in particular jobs. Go beyond the superficial. Think of that time your son sprinkled talcum powder on the living room carpet for snow for his Thomas train set, and what insight it gave you. What did you learn, how did it affect you? We are a sum of our experiences, triumphs great and small, and mistakes. Often the smallest incident can have a profound impact on our lives (and potential worth to a company).

I believe in the power of stories. I graduated at the top of my law school class not because I memorized a bunch of stuff but because I viewed the law and cases as stories with meaning. Develop your story, learn to value what is unique about you. Understand that employers want someone who will make their company great again, to borrow a phrase. In an interview, be prepared with your stories to show your wisdom, experience, and what you will bring.

And don't make the mistake of trying to go back for this job. It's like a rejected suitor who won't go away, embarrassing both parties. The desperate need for a job can lead to all sorts of illogical and counter-productive behavior, but how often does a rejected suitor prevail by pestering the person who rejected them back into a long-term relationship?

Good luck!

Debbie Hudson

I have researched on every single question that has been asked of me in an interview to find a proper way of responding. I have implemented these answers in an interview. No positive results. I have worked with the employment office to help me in making sure I am doing interviews the proper way. No positive results.

Debbie Hudson

Thanks to all who gave commented on my venting. To answer a few questions, on the question of how long do I plan to work I believe that my answer 'as long as I can " was a very positive answer. I stated that I had not even thought about retiring. As to the run in my husband has had the CFO, this company is a propane company . we live in a rural area. My husband is a grain farmer. When he needed propane gas to use in the dryer that is used for drying the grain before it goes to market this CFO refused to deliver propane gas when needed. They had a few choice words regarding customer satisfaction. If I would have known this prior to my interview my answer would have been different. I would have politely told him that who my husband is has nothing to do with my ability to do the job.

Tim Tennant

I lived in a rural area for years and understand exactly what you are talking about - you have to be related to the right person, or belong to the right civic organization, club, or church if you need something. I agree with Mr. Honibrook. Nothing was asked which is illegal; ethically questionable? Maybe, but nothing illegal. Employers need to know that they are hiring the right person and may ask the same question in different ways in order to obtain the answer they need.

In the case of the CFO refusing to deliver a product, your husband should have let that issue alone and not complain about customer service. It sounds to me like the CFO is making COO decisions and, being in a rural area, the CFO is probably the final decision maker at the company - maybe the owner of the company. If this is the case, you would never have had a day at work which you would have been comfortable or felt secure in your position. You may have had a job, but would you actually like to go to work feeling as if you were walking on eggshells every time you had to interact with the CFO? That refusal of service tells me that the company does not sound as if they care what their customers think about them - they don't want to make money.

My final advice: Find somewhere else to get a job, and forget about the propane company. Also, research the company and find out who you are applying to work WITH, not just who you may be working FOR.

Charles Lehner

Buy a franchise.

Midwest Guy

If I were you, I would save my energy and look for other opportunities. But at the same time, go on glass door and leave your experience with these companies. That's the most professional and appropriate way to get back at these people.

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Yes. I have used Glass door after a horrible interview. Hopefully it will save someone else the trouble of dealing with them or at least prepare them to know what to expect.

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Is the company expanding, and adding new, similar positions? Or is this the exact position advertised in the first place? If its the latter, take it as a red flag, and look elsewhere. If the company goes through employees that quickly, it may signal a problem with management.

Debbie Hudson

No. The person in this position was promoted. They advertised for this job. They made an offer to someone and when they submitted a resignation they were given a counter offer from her employer and she decided to accept the counter offer, therefore, the reposting.

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Ask what does his issues with your husband reflect you and your ability to do good job? The issue is with your hubby, not you. It's bad ethics to hold his issue with your hubby against you and your ability to do the job. Report to the EEO about along your birthday, age, and that you feel the CFO holds against you the issue he has work your husband against you. Good: luck

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These dummies with masters degrees play this game with applicants and I pray it comes back to bite them. I have nothing good to say about the workforce or its internal Spanish Inquisition teams

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When jobs keep hiring for the same position that is a red flag to me something is wrong with that job. If God wanted u to get that job u would have that job. He is blocking this from happening cause he had something better. He can see things we cannot see. Trust in hum and be patient.what we want may not be what he wants for us

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Sounds to me like the only reason you were called for an interview is because the CFO wanted to see if you were the guy's wife he hated. Maybe a humiliation thing. Also the job is always being advertised which makes me think it's a crappy place to work and people quit or get fired all the time. Be happy you didn't get it. It does sound discriminatory I have been asked inappropriate questions in interviews as well. Most recently where do I get my news from. I told them the truth. Don't think they liked it. Not sure how you can prove discrimination since its your word against his.

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This is election time and the government were you live is always hiring. The problem is that most people don't apply for civil servant jobs because they don't pay a lot of money. But they have great benefits.

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Sorry for your issue. It seems to me that you need to brush up on the interview process. Try connecting with a job coach who can critique and improve your interviewing skills

Bernard Hendricks

Hi Debbie,

It seems that there is some conflict. Between the CFO of the company, you applied
for a position? The CFO will hold that grudge against you, due to the fact . That your
husband and the CFO , had some kind a misunderstanding? Talk to your husband, about
the key facts, of what happened?

Bernard Hendricks

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Stop crying like a baby wtf your a grown women maybe someone else is better for the job then you look for something else just stop crying

Debbie Hudson

And you are stupid.

Stoner Renfro

I'm very sorry you experienced this, I hate that it happened, I don't quite know what else to say, besides maybe looking elsewhere for a different job since they aren't going about this the right way

janet austgen

Well add it up. Maybe ask for an appointment using ur maiden name to see the gentleman ur afraid might be blocking ur efforts. Prepare urself from outfit to nails, and go in with the idea of interviewing for the position. Ask whats new in the business? I personally would ask him if he could see me working there? Because I dont think he is consciously aware of denying you the job over an outside issue. Also ask him about the 2-3 new-hires and why they didn't workout. U seem quiet, but I'm sure that u have something to be proud of! I think it is perfect that u emailed them! Sincerely if I were you, I would bring up all those classified ads, and think it was 'a calling'. specifically for me! By God they might just find a miracle worker they just need a reminder push!

A Smith

Keep looking for other opportunities.

Dorothy McCabe

I don't know if working for a company that is always looking for employeds.soynd like they are always letting go of people who have just been hired.something is not right

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I agree with most people here, this doesn't sound like a good company, better to move on. They asked you your birth date, how long you plan to work, who's your husband ( all illegal questions by the way), and on top of that your husband's actions have caused their VIP irritation. Plus you've applied and interviewed like 4 times and still don't get an offer. Get the hint. There are more fish in the ocean. You'll find a better opportunity. Forget about them. Also a tip so you do better in interviews: practice those answers over and over, until the answers sound natural. Fake it until you make it.

Lin Burton, SHRM-CP/PHR

It's against the law to have someone complete a background check form before offering the job. And they have no right asking you how long you plan to work or who your husband is. The big question here is why would you want to work for this company? I advise you to run like heck in the opposite direction. This is an unethical business.

Jeffrey Nesmith

I can't add much to what others have said here. These guys are more than willing to cheat it,so I have to ask why you'd want to work for these people? You need a job, but do you need one where you have learned off the top they're going to break the rules as a matter of course?

Sorry, but something isn't adding up here. I'm missing something, obviously.

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So if someone that you knows work for the company can stop you from moving up. I never thought that that would have any control over that when your performance review is what should affect you these petty things these company's do. If you are a good worker then that and the other applicants should be what makes the difference. People quit being petty. Give it another try if not then let it go.

Reginald Lockett

It's a shame our spouses can make it hard for us sometimes. But just as they make it hard with others they make it better for us with their love and all of the things we don't mention. I say don't be mad at them because if the shoe was on the other foot we may do the same thing. Thank God you might have the reason why you wasn't hired

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Sounds to me like this is probably not where you should be. If they are asking who is your husband I don't get what that has to do with you getting a job there, you are not him. I would look for another job it shouldn't take that much to be hired just means that's not where you belong, the RIGHT job is out there just keep trying & stay positive it's harder on older people because of certain companies but there are ones out there that are looking for them. I'm 55 yrs old & just had to look took me about 4 months of trying & I found one. Good Luck :)

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You can state that you can keep job and hubby separate, but that doesn't mean the CEO can. This might be a conflict you don't want to entertain unless they are the only game in town. Regarding interviewing, practice makes perfect. Most job centers have free classes to learn about interviewing. Also, many questions are similar, so check out a book at the library to see what kind of answer they are really looking for and then develop your own. I really like these two: Competency-Based Interviews (Robin Kessler) and Next-Day Job Interview (Michael Farr). The deal is, when you understand the question, you can frame your experience in terms of the job description you are applying for. Remember, after awhile experience catches up with college degrees.

Lola Gallegos

Just keep moving and do your thing, You are your own person and your husband is not going to be attached to your hip when you go to work. If this Company is so petty than It's my guess you don't even want to be there. You are applying for a job not to be the CEO of the Company and sometimes these companies put you through more red tape than the FBI. I know you want the job , this has happened to me before but at the end of the day Blessings come in ways we may not always appreciate.

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Hello Debbie,
There are questions that employers may ask that you can refuse to answer. Personal life being one of them. They can very well use what you tell them against you.

Brian Stanley

Run Debbie run. This situation has bad deal written all over it. The reasons are numerous for letting go. A few of them are yours and a few of them are the companies. You suggested that you lack a 4 year degree but have a 2 year one. Seems as though regardless of education a person who has worked for an extended amount of time has numerous skills. Why down play yours? The interview is the time to blow your own horn and do it with conviction. You also suggest that you get mad when others take credit for your ideas? Who doesn't when it comes to being overlooked at raise time? Yet, it happens. A red flag to an employer if you let this event color your performance. You also eluded to the issue of the background check and a possible issue with age. In todays job market that is more of a norm then you might think. Not many employers want to hire the older generation due to issues with health and the amount of training required to get a new employee up to speed. Sure we can take offense to the possibility of age discrimination. Only you will get bogged down with an issue that has no real good outcome for you. Then the real issue with letting go of this opportunity. Family and business do not mix. If your husband and the CFO have issues from the past it will go against you at some point and interfere with how you do private business with them in the future.

Gala Werner

Good Day Brian Stanley,

Most of the older generation run circles around the younger. I have no health problems, is that another question, or it is just believed? at 53 I need a job, about to be homeless.. My folks worked into their late seventies. All these assumptions piss me off...

Elizabeth Russo

Dearest Debbie. Many years ago, I applied for a job & didn't get it. About a year later, they called me for a different position that I also applied for with an updated resume. Upon telling a very good colleague of mine--I will never forget his words because over the years they've proven to be true. He said, Elizabeth if they didn't hire you the first time, they probably won't hire you the 2nd or 3rd time. He was correct about that company and several others. I sincerely hope this isn't your case. But please don't set yourself up for even more disappointment. It's an employers' market, they know it, & they use any/all reasons to weed seekers out. Good luck & stay strong. Elizabeth

Gala Werner

Good Day Debbie,

It is none of their business who your husband is. I have never been asked that. I would not say, sometimes you need to let a co. go, on their wicked way. I see jobs available that I applied to also... Let them go.. You are better and they just think it is funny to power trip. You do not want to work there, could you imagine?

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I too would say, move on. Our associations can impact our opportunity for employment. Also, by law, an organization cannot do a background check until they formally offer you the job. Good luck

Debbie Hudson

I look at all opportunities. But with all the rejections I am truly considering a different path. Every oppotunitiy that comes up I jump on it. I get the interview. I do all that is appappropriate. Sending thank you letters. Follow through phone calls. Emails. Nothing. Very discouraging.

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Take this update with your employers overall him and contact the department of labor/Afl.cio worker to tell about your situation.

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If I was you, I would just apply elsewhere because if the hesitation in hiring you is because of your husbad, I can see why they would hesitate in making you their employee. Husband and wife are considered as one and they may not understand the importance of The relationship, is between you two. That job is not the only one!!

Robin Baun

I'd look elsewhere. When people ask you about your husband etc., they could be just trying to get rapport with you, or else there might be something that I'd consider inappropriate going on, who knows? If you can't think of any accomplishments that you've had, you need to ask others you've worked with. I think they'll come up with things you've done well. To say you don't have any accomplishments I'm sure that's not true!

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Networking is everything at this stage in your career. It sounds like your husband is well networked. See if he can make intros to friends and avoid his enemies.

patricia pope

Than apply for another position. The CFO could be blocking you because of your husband and this in it self is hard to prove so chalk it up and keep moving forward. peace be with you.

Joseph Ferber

Obviously, the CFO is holding that against you - the run-ins with your husband. The CFO will NOT tell you that of course!

Nolan Snell

Holy cow. They are NOT allowed to ask you questions about your marital status- especially who your spouse is.

On the question about how long you were going to work- you should have given a nice big number- like 10 more years. As long as I can is too vague and allows the interviewer to wonder if you have a terminal disease or something. The background check is normal.

You might Google tips for interviews. There is a LOT of good advice on interview technique out there on the net, and you would not believe how little most people know about best presenting themselves.

The marriage question is illegal though and you might contact an attorney.

Denise Catlyn

Wow! I feel your pain when jobs are repeatedly posted and you keep applying for the same position. I have done that too. I would talk to the CFO and tell him you would like to keep it professional what problems transpired between him and your spouse please leave you out of it. Best Wishes and always keep God in your life first.

marcelle simpson

Let's start right off the bat, let that place go what done is done. May I say people in general have a hard time separating individuals when it comes to behavior and character flaws.whatever discourse went on between those two men its between those two only.Now what you have to do is start fresh A clean slate so to speak understanding this you are worthy for something better, what your mind conceive of yourself eventually that's who you become. Yes you are humble, but be also strong in spirit you must work on your insecurities because it shows in your interviews you have to become confident I think strong,speak strong,walk strong. Not arrogant but have assurance about yourself. You can achieve anything you set your mind to,if you Want bad enough you will find away to obtain it God Bless you take charge:)

Debbie Hudson

Even though I would have liked to work at this company I aways keep my options open. it just seems awful petty that a person in a high position within a company can be so low as to hold a grudge , for lack of a better word, against someones family or family member. To me that is unprofessional.
When you live in a small midwestern town options are pretty limited. Not many good paying jobs available.

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I have had the same type of instances happen for whatever reason. However, in your instance I think perhaps another hindrance for you would be the possible conflict between your husband and CFO. Not saying this is what he is doing as he may just be thinking it maybe a possible future conflict, but some people can be petty and vindictive no matter their level within an organization.

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does the cfo even know who your husband is?--that he IS your husband...that would be the key thing. If nothing else i'd reiterate in person how much you really want this job and WHY you'd be a good pick for the company. Otherwise if the history between he and your husband is an issue- it may be better to just move on to a different company to work for.

Debbie Hudson

I have already contacted him to let him know that I would be the best person for the job. I am sitting around was waiting for this job I am looking at different options.