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I am a pharmacy tech.I have ben under an enormous amount of stress. I am these bread winner for 5 adults: my unemployed husband and three college students living at home. I am overwrought with health problems lately. My anxiety and depression are out of control. I am a faithful and good employee. I asked my doctor for medication to calm my frazzled nerves. I was prescribes something.I took it and it made me feel very strange. This compounded my anxiety and I felt like I was having a mental breakdown. I went to the store for milk. I store affiliated with the store in which I work. I was out of my mind with confusion and despondency. I was going to buy some special chai conditioner form mentally struggling daughter. When I saw the price, I tossed it in my purse without thinking. This is polar behavior of everything I stand for.I don't know what came over me. I of course was caught. I was arrested and booked for shoplifting. It is surreal to me. There is no excuse however it makes no sense to me.I pride myself on my integrity. This lapse in reasoning cost me to be suspended and defiantely will be terminated. I have worked there for4 years and have carved out this career due to my work ethic and high moral standings. I appear to be a hypocrite. I am just destroyed and spiraling down in terror. Iam in the union; can they help me? What recourse do I have, if any? I am ashamed and mortified. I am a good person.I have never stole anything in my life. What the heck shouldI do? I feel like I was in a blackout. Again, there is no excuse that will erase this horrible and disastrous mistake. What should I do?

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Mel Kotchey

First, go to your rictus and get a written record of what’s going on with your health, also if you have a therapist their overall notes for you. Gather a letter from any prior employers that you need er stole anything. Take all that evidence, then search in your state for an attorbey that is a litigation attorney, see if they know the magistrates, this is small claims court. Then retain them, counter-sue them back for much much more and they will likely drop it all for an honest mistake. Let your attorney pickup building your case but be factual, bullet points. List the day you started, any any written performance reviews so you hand that over to make your legal fees be less since you did the groundwork to stay m your case then counter sue. Think about that countersuit. Include on your response, anything they have done wrong you can price si you have leverage.

The case you show should be that you never stole in your life anywhere ever, list examples, make the case you could have easily stolen things but did not. Your doctor or a therapist even now can back up your mental state and health conditions. Stay in the state you reside in. You will get out of this and possibly with a good litigator they will argue the case down to a fine or nothing, most likely.

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Dalton Donaldson

no one can fix it but you

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Janet Saffold-Ballantine

Pray. Talk to people at your church and let them know that you need support and assistance for your family. Be bold and demand help from your union. Contact numerous social services for help for your family. Bless yoi.

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Kristi Sherwood

Tell the union you need help for substance abuse and they will have to save your job

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Ginnie Jackson

Pray my love ask the Lord for guidance understanding and forgiveness then forgive yourself. We've all got a story but God has overcome all things stay prayed up and keep your faith life is not over.ill be praying for you.

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Michelle

So- first thing's your therapist/physician been filled in? Your safety is first.

Next, if they agree with anxiety, that is a disability. Was your employer aware of your anxiety? If so, firing would in THEORY be discrimination. However, this is only if the Dr can verify and semi- explain the behavior.

A possibility : Some medications can cause very erratic behavior and sometimes its 100% dormant when off meds, but rises in impulsivity with the introduction of new meds.

Def something to keep an eye on. I've def had some med issues. Didn't cause any legal issues but uncovered something else I had going on.

Best of luck!

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Susynn Yates

I had a 26 year career and 4 years ago had to transfer to a new department, after my dream job of 13 years. I had a horrible micromanaging boss that did not like me. I alerted HR several times about the issues, no one listened, I was termed and she is still treating employees horribly. I take it as a sign God wants me somewhere else. I now work from home full time and I love it. God knows what he is doing

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Carolyn Shumard

I am so sorry that this happened to you. Recently I was terminated by my employer. It's a mess when you are an employee at will. It's not a pretty thing and shame adds to the stress. I went to an employment lawyer. What is legal is different than what is at good human behavior for an employer. And I worked for a human services agency. Fight for your unemployment! After you are denied-appeal! The event does not define you. Good luck!

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Philip Crisher

get a good attorney

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KingBlack Canarsie

saying "definitely will be terminated." is not the right way to think, faith says believe it and God will show you, so be careful what you say. Pray and be honest and apologetic. Give it to God in prayer. this kind of case can be met with suspension, and warning and education. think positively

i wish you all the best

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