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One mistake.

I am a 31 year old who has not had a job since 2015, and that one i had only lasted four months at McDonald's because I quite with out telling them, i stopped showing up because they would not take a stomach infection serious. In 2010 i was fired from my first job (another McDonalds) that i held four four and half years ( violation of company police.) I was still working when i was cough with merchandise in my purse, and because my face was looking up at the cameras like a deer in the brightness of headlights on a car, i was also accused of a previous theft. It was in 2008 or 2009 when after i got out of work i went to go to Target with a "friend" and asked her to hold onto my purse (i didn't like taking bags into the restroom) and when i got out i met her near the movies and books. I took my purse back not realizing it was heavier, because i carry a lot of stuff in my purses, sometimes i am know to have a book or two in my bag. I was just leaving the check out when i had three employers bar my way and grab my shoulder roughly asking if i like lord of the rings... i was creeped out, and my friend had already left me cause she was only on break at the time... The people who cornered me brought me into a back room and showed me pictures of myself making faces at the cameras like a fool and then said they needed to see my purse. i gave it over and they took everything out and i seen that some dvds not in a case were there.. they asked me why i took them and i told them that i didn't know what they were talking about and so they called the cops so i got a ticked and was given a court date. I had chance to clear my record, if i followed the program, which was a retail fraud class (only one day,) 6 month probation without trouble, 20 hours of community service. i did every thing i needed to but all of the hours of community service, because i was working and going to school at the same time i didn't have the time, my probation officer didn't care at all and violated me so i never cleared my name, so now i am stuck with a Misdemeanor retail fraud 3rd degree. I can fill out application after application but as soon as they run a background check then i am taken off there list of potential employees without even asked me about what happen 10-11 years ago. I stay with my best friend on her couch because if i didn't have such a good friend i could be very much be on the street again. I used to say i need a job which is true i do, but not only do i need a job, i really want a job. I want to be able to over come my feelings of self doubt, hate, and worthlessness/ uselessness. I want to be able to be a person again that I can be proud of once again.

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Roger Dickman
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Sorry Amanda, I'm not able to offer any advice on your situation, maybe others will. I hope others will realize the fact that our reputations can make us or break us after reading your story. I wish you all the best.

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Amanada, become self employed. As you build up your life from where it is now to where it can be, you grow through improved self esteem from empowering yourself to drive to succeed. With your past behind you, you move forward. If you sell widgets, incorporate in Belize where your past will not prevent you from forming business relationships which matter to your company's global growth. It is your company's reputation, that matters in the business world. Not that you are on the board of directors in a nation which never publishes that data.

So, if you think it cannot be done recall this: homeless man had a sharpie, drew on shirts for cash. Lives better.

Woman on public assistance sold food for cash, lunches to construction workers. Went on to buying a house from her hard work. Certified kitchen time was $15 per hour to rent back then.

So, with nothing, one can become something. Just empower yourself to take the next step in transforming your life.

Only you, Amanda, can make that choice. Choose wisely.

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Amanda, so that you do not repeat "pasts that plague a business" abstain from showcasing yourself on social media as a director of your company. Customers may find you, background check you and stop business with you. Example, do not become another pizza story. Avoid it with absolution. No social media accounts, no bad mouthing any aspect of society in a place where someone can post your comments online and ruin your reputation as a human being.

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Oh, and if you sell hotdogs, sodas and chips on a busy corner, you could make up to $75,000 per year. More in a very busy corner. So, you never have to have a Bachelors, Masters or PhD to be paid more than most occupations in a city. Just provide great customer service, sell a quality product and be good to others around you. The reward is amazing. $75,000 per year was on a not so busy corner in not so populated Hilo, Hawaii. Much more is made on a corner in Washington DC just selling cold bottled water.

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