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Raquel Sanchez
almost 3 years ago
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A assault a family

This happened in Saginaw and Texas at that time my daughter was 30 she had told me the b-word and I'm her mother she wanted me to get up from the vehicle she was driving and I told her how can I get off so she stopped as soon as I was going to get off I turn around and try to slap her not too and respect me that I was her mother she covered her face from me not slept in her I did not scratcher I did not pull hair iParty just left her a little bit no signs up fingerprints on her face but still she call the cops and they arrested me so now I have that assault on my background and that stops me from getting a job how can I remove this need help

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Kimberly Reed
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The bit about jobs is secondary. Try to mend your relationship with your daughter. Really and truly make an effort to apologize and seek forgiveness. It doesn’t matter what she’s done or said to you in the past, you’re the parent. You have to be the bigger person in this. If you feel at any time like hitting your daughter (or anyone, for that matter) stop, take a deep breath and explain to them how you’re feeling. Being able to talk about your feelings takes a lot more thought than a backhand, but it often leaves both parties more satisfied in the end.

And don’t think I’m just talking out of the side of my mouth. I’ve been in both you and your daughter’s positions before. I was spanked, slapped and whooped as a child and when I had my own kids, it was hard to undo the programming about how to discipline children. Thankfully for them, by the time they were old enough to really raise my blood pressure I’d decided that corporal punishment wasn’t the answer and they grew up to be lovely, well adjusted, successful people. It’s also not too late for you to change your relationship with your daughter either. When I was in my early 20’s I had a discussion with my father about the constant physical abuse growing up. He honestly didn’t know how badly it affected me, and admitted that he grew up the same way himself. From that day on, he never raised a hand to me and we have a wonderful, loving father/daughter relationship.

So don’t focus on the job right now. Your first priority should be to mend your relationship with your daughter.

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Anthony Harrington
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You need to talk to a lawyer. No one on this site can give out legal advice. If you want to see if you are eligible to have your record expunged or to learn about what your options are, consult a lawyer. Best of luck!

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Elaine Dziejma
over 1 year ago
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Need good advice

I was living in New York and moved to Florida two years ago. I was working for a hospital that we did drug screening. I was working for over 10 years earned a good salary and could do my job with my eyes closed. We decided to move to Florida because the schools are much easier. The cost of living in New York is very expensive. Anyway, we moved to Florida in 2016 and we struggled and struggled. I decided to go back to school in 2017 to get a certificate in billing and coding. Now I’m having problems with financial aid pell grant. I have to get an amend letter from 2016 which I don’t have because H and R block messed up my taxes. So now school is on hold. Problem is my husband is by my side and is saying that he’s willing to pay with my mom's help for the school that cost over $700 for two online classes which doesn’t include books. He doesn’t understand that we are still struggling and I’m trying to pay off the hole that he put me in. I already told him I’m going to find a job no matter how hard it’s going to take me. He said ok. Problem is that now he wants to invest $250.00 for some stock and I don’t agree with it because I’m trying to pay off a credit card and a cell bill that if I don’t pay it by a certain day next month, I will be put in collections. We got into an argument because he wanted to invest the stock for us in the future. Then he had to call up my mother to complain about it. Mind you folks we are both 47 years old. He’s upset and is being a real asshole. I spoke to my mom and she understands what I am talking about. You see my husband puts me in such a hole financially and I’m trying to get out of that hole so we can be better next year and we can move into another place because the apt where we been living is going to go up in rent once you renew you lease. We are paying $1,576 a month in Florida and it’s not the greatest. I told my husband go ahead and invest. He started being nasty to me. I just walked away and now we are not speaking. He’s an asshole because I feel that hes throwing a temper tantrum from stupid crap and when things are real bad, he starts packing his clothes. You can not run away from your problems. We need to sit down and discuss them. He doesn’t even want to talk about it. I’m trying my best to find a job. It’s not easy. Please give me some good advice. Thank you

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Ashley Moore Sr.
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Look people. I've suffered a similar fate in my marriage. The blame isn't where you want to be in this case. Take responsibility for your actions, pbp. You're husband is trying to be supportive and you're basically kicking him in the ass for his efforts. When someone has got your back and you're basically being a asshole to them, how do you expect them to react? Like I said, it's a two way street and you're trying to make it a one way. Why don't you just get a job and become a solution and not part of the problem. I left my wife for the same reason; and she wanted do what she wanted to with whoever she wanted to which expedited my departure. Be that as it may, when two people are striving towards a common goal, it all works out. But when you're complaining and not trying help and not working; how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? If don't love him anymore, be honest with him and yourself. Because what you're doing is very hurtful and I for one don't blame him for wanting to leave. And for Christ sake! Take responsibility for your actions please!

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JEFF FENTON
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THEY KEY IS ONLY TO INVEST WHAT YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH, NOT WITH MONEY NEEDED FOR BILLS AND SUCH !

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CLIFFORD PHILLIPS
about 3 years ago
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Crazy story @ #Kimco

One morning while working at Kohls the job I do for Kimco. A man shot his wife at the store just up the street. There were cops all over the place. It was crazy, but the lady did not die, and about two weeks later they found her ex. He had shot himself. Guess who won out on that?

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Lyea Douglas
about 1 year ago
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Hello everyone.

I feel I have dug myself into a hole. I worked as a senior client services administrator at a wealth management company until late 2013.. my 13 year old daughter tragically ended her life and because of the grief, despair, depression and anxiety I was unable to continue in an office environment. Around a year later, I was finally able to lift my head up out of the darkness and started bartending at two different places. I'm wanting to get back into administration but feel my being a bartender for the past 4 years gets my resume thrown right into the NO pile. Any suggestions? Thank you for reading.

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Dawn Barnett
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No its not . you went through a bad situation and you had to grieve and if that is the way you did tham so be it . Remember things work out and God will watch over you . i gave up a 16$ an hr job when my husband died i had to kids to raise and did what i had to . Yes my situation was different. , however i have never regretted taking on any lower paying jobs or putting them on my resume . It just shows we do what we have to when we need to, to get by and grieve.

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Daniel Hsu
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Perhaps seek a letter of recommendation from a former coworker, customer or supervisor.

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Anonymous User
about 3 years ago
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Fired due due police.

I was let go from my job due police calling my place of work trying to say I stole meds they found in my home in a biohazard. They were in my home due to an argument with my teenage son and they have almost ruined me. I know this is probably not the place but I have to vent. Don't call police if you don't have to your rep is in their hands . If I could due I would. The most crucial time for this to happen and I loved my job but will not be allowed to work for humans again. Sheriff's called my place of work on their accusation..i have never stolen meds from anyone. I'm not allowed to work for thus huge insurance company again. I don't want to work in nursing home ..i loved my case management. I have done nothing but suffer.ober this last year..if thus post causes too much strife I will withdraw. I just can't move on since this occurance..UNBILIEVABLE..i can't believe police would do such a thing...

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Linda Hanks
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It depends on your state but I am a certified Pharmacy Technician and am finishing Pharm D if drugs were found in my home my certification would be pulled as its a zero tolerance issue. I work for the county and certain infractions are reported to us legally by police because they are obligated too. I know an instance where one of county health workers was let go due to a similar situation she couldn't prove where the medications came from that were found so unfortunately it means she lost her job and her license. I understand it is easy to blame the people that found the drugs in your home I instead would be angry with the person who brought drugs into your home putting you and your family at risk because its on them the police have no choice but to report certain things if they don't they face their own consequences.

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David Ryan
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Go file a detailed complaint with Internal Affairs.

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Maghen Schroader
over 3 years ago
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single parent needing a job by next month

Im in a bit of a bind for the moment. and am needing a job by next month. the past couple of months have been a living nightmare. I've been applying, but no luck. I don't know people well enough to get help from friends. so here is my situation. my husband of 4 years up and kicked my self and my daughter out, and took my youngest brother in.

I was forced to move in with my mother. and place all my things in storage. her husband got me a job a a place that didn't want to properly train me. and they let me go after 3 weeks. because of that fact. I've been applying for places such as walmart, dollarstore, CVS and any where else I could think of.

I worked in retail, have little experience in that and no experience in anything else. I am working on my diploma online and need a little help with figuring out what to do.....Husband has given me one of our cars but its still in his name. he has insurance on it but will be taking it off by the end of next month. I really need any help I can get at this point. cause right now, I am left with nothing.

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Penelope Calderon
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Legally, he can't do that because you have an child together so, first I would suggest to seek legal advice. In the meantime, apply to some temp agencies to have money in your pocket. Also, if it possible you and your husband need to come to an agreement not just because of you, but for your child.

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mzlydiva .
over 3 years ago
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Overwhelmed.

I must say working for s3 safety services, was a nightmare! The first day I worked they supervisor Denise did not give me not 1 break, during a twelve hour shift. My coworkers told me to speak up, but I felt she already knew I didn't have a break because she would continuously stare at me. I am not the one for confrontation. So I just soaked it up. I signed up to be a event staff but I was more like doing nothing but security work. I worked and worked, even on my golden birthday.and I must say the day I worked on July 23 2016 was a night mare. It was raining so bad and it were a lot of lose cords laying around in a thunderstorm. I just have to say. They want to save money and have you doing security work. Which is very different what you sign up for. They don't want to pay real security officers. They want to pay you Event's staff wage for security work. For hours. One day I was doing security work for the lallapalooza I had to guard a huge stage, without giving a hard hat. Where the construction workers were building a stage. And it was a lot of electronics and it start raining that day! Some people passing by made me feel crazy by telling me I shouldn't be around the construction without out any safety. Overall they then fired me due to my daughter have sicko cell. And I just couldn't make it for 3 days. I just think they don't care about they employees.

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Jeniffer Dedrick
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That sounds awful! Sorry you've had to deal with that at your job.

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about 3 years ago
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Time is important

Been with the old man for 18 yes and I am so done. I helped him pay for the home we live in now we are selling and want to amicably split but he wants to fight for everything dishes towels omg that's awful but it happens where ever I wind up can't get any worse than where I'm at now

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Anthony Russomanno
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I am so sorry to hear about your situation. However, with time I think everything will blow over and settle down. In the meantime, keep head up and stay strong!

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Meesh O
about 1 year ago
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Jobeless is it illegal??

Soo I have been employed by the same company since October of 2018... I never missed a day of work or was late. I ALWAYS went above and beyond. I told the gm I needed time of in June (this was November) she ended up quitting/getting fired not sure which, anyway I remind the owner about a month ago at our weekly meetings that I needed the time off he helped me to have someone fill as far as I knew everything was fine. I talked to him on Tuesday asking if I could spread my acquired sick time over the next few weeks I had time off so I atleast had something coming in he said sure when are u returning to work? I said be there Thursday the 4th but unfortunately in court they changed some days I already had off and covered, I sent him the new days... he said I’ll meet you Thursday when u come in. I get there the woman I originally notified in November of the time I Needed off was there and told me she was taking over the store and when I asked why? The owner said I did nothing wrong... no hard feelings, I was told I’m just looking for something different.... is this legal? Do I loose sick time that takes me 40 hrs to make 1 sick time hr?? Really?? Any recourse besides just collecting?

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Nelson Franco
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Hi Meesh O Were you demoted or terminated? I guess I’m not understanding why they’re deciding to go in another direction with the stores Management. In ether case, you should have been referred to HR when you originally brought up your extended time off request to your first manager.

A trained HR representative or knowledgeable manager would have discussed the FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) option. The FMLA is designed to help employees balance their work and family responsibilities by allowing them to take reasonable unpaid leave for certain family emergencies. This process would have allowed you to use all of your earned paid time off first with additional time to use if needed.

Check the earned time off policy in your employee handbook and see how the company delivers compensation for earned time off if you’ve been terminated. It’s a shame when employers don’t offer employee assistance when life matters arise. You should have been better informed.

Please keep us updated on this situation Meesh O . Hope everything work out.

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Anthony Harrington
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It is definitely shady, but the way they phrased it, "we're moving in a different direction" sets it up for termination via employment-at-will.

Since MA is an at-will state, this means they can let you go for any reason. You should qualify for unemployment benefits, so be sure to apply to ensure that you have some income coming in while continuing to search for new employment opportunities.

Legal? Yes Fair? Not even close.

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Aieisha King
about 3 years ago
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The biggest mistake I made as a #certifiednursing at #Robinsonhealthcare ...

The big mistake was when family members tell them that they live in in the hotel and they find out that they live in the nursing home that was the biggest mistake ever tell your loved ones that they living in a hotel room and knowing that they live in a nursing home and they ask you questions about is this a hotel room and you have to tell them the truth

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