When you’re looking for a job, being rejected is nearly impossible to avoid. That doesn’t mean that it still doesn’t hurt! You could be sending in applications and not hearing anything, or you could be getting all the way to the end of a hiring process only to be passed up for another candidate. Whatever the situation may be, rejection while job seeking can feel difficult to bounce back from.
If left unchecked, these negative feelings can begin to sabotage your job search, so it's important to refocus yourself when you start to feel down about employer rejections. Here's how you can stay ahead of those feelings to both care for yourself and keep your job search moving in positive directions.
1. Understand that it’s not your fault
When you’re rejected, it can be easy to take the blame onto yourself, but there are elements that will always be out of your control in any hiring process. Being that, in many cases, you simply won’t know why you’re being rejected it’s better to not get down on yourself for being lacking in some fundamental way.
Remember that hiring managers make their decisions based on the small amount of information provided about you in your application and/or interview. Their ability to determine whether you are a good fit is limited by the tools they use to filter applicants and their own, very human, ability to judge who might be a good fit for the job.
2. Understand what you can control
Feeling like things are out of your control can also be a point of stress when rejected, so it’s important to balance your understanding of what you can’t control with what you can control. If you feel powerless to succeed, you may feel like there’s no point in trying which can give you less energy to try.
A loss of momentum in your job search can lead to you submitting less applications or putting less effort into the applications you submit. So to keep yourself motivated, focus instead on the things you have the power to change about your job searching approach. Here are some elements that you have control over while job seeking:
- What jobs you’re applying for
- How often you apply for jobs
- What job seeking tools you use
- The content and quality of your resume or application
- Your dress and demeanor in interviews
- How prepared you are to talk about yourself in interviews
- Your willingness to follow up with employers
By consistently focusing on elements that you have control over, you can divert your attention from feelings of powerlessness while making progress toward your goal of being hired, simply by focusing on the quality of your job seeking approach.
3. Stay informed and creative
At the end of the day, the rejection you face today is a signal to change something about your job seeking approach. By knowing what you can change and making creative and informed decisions about how you make those changes, you can assert control over the situation.
If you’re finding yourself in a rut, submitting applications over and over and never getting offers, it makes sense that you should change up your approach. Depending on your industry, qualifications and personality you will have to find the unique approach that shows you in the best possible light.
To unlock this combination, you’ll need to be constantly absorbing new job-seeking tactics and trying them out. Doing this will not only push you toward finding your footing with job-seeking, but it will keep things fresh and interesting while you work toward getting hired. Staying creative and informed also keeps your focus away from thinking about rejection, and redirects your energy in a more productive and positive way.
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I love this topic and so needed to read it, because I AM IN A SERIOUS RUT. ALL DAY and into the wee hours of the middle of the night. All I do is filter through 3 different email addresses, and yep, there tons of job site offers , 1000’s of advertisements. This online computer BS is driving me insane. “ Jennifer congratulations ur hired or So & So wants you. So I get excited go to the specific job and it will turn out to be some dang survey. Let’s fix ur credit or do u want to go back to school? And several positions will pop up and when I finally find the certain job. It takes forever to create a stupid profile, submit a resume and in the last 6 months i haven’t gotten a single call. And if I do get an interview. I may get hired through the managers but when they say, ok I’ll send up the link for the background report. And a day , a week later, it’s “ Thank you but we can no longer proceed with ur application due to the results from background we are not a felon friendly company.Niven have door after door slammed in my face. And I’m just freaking over it. I tried to serve in 2 different restaurants but I’m 48 yrs old , and end up limping and in tears from my back and body being in excruciating pain. And the younger kids I work with see me as some old woman and they run circles around me. And I used to be a professional fine dining server back in the day. So yea this is a very disturbing topic for me, it’s Christmas and i can’t put Christmas under the tree for my kids, can’t make my car payment, I live with my dad and supporting me is eating this 71 yr old man alive. So it’s very easy for me to be angry at myself for my past mistakes and pissed at the companies that turn me down. Sorry so long but I’m so over this crap
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